[Motorguy]

I have an issue that I know nothing can be done about but want to know if others have experieinced the same thing and what they have done. My wife and I have be happily married for over 35 years, have great kids and a good life. The problem is my wife does something that upsets me and has from the beginning.

My wife and I met our junior year in college. From the beginning she has shared her experieinces with Bob, her high school boyfriend. As to be expected they shared all their sexual "firsts", first petting, first bj, gave him her virginity, etc. The problem is she shares her stories even after I have asked to not to. I do not like to think about her having sex with other people. She has told me how cops found them naked in the back seat, how she thinks men's cum is unusual in that she would get Bob's on her body but by the time she got home to wash up for bed it disappeared, how his parents found them naked in the basement.... more info than I need.

When we gradualted from college we both got jobs in her home town. When we would go to parties Bob would be there and my girlfriend (now wife) would go over give him a hug and kiss. I hated it because I could image then having sex. I got transferred and we moved, my wife preferred going to her 15 year high school reunion rather than celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary. She told me after the reunion they went to a diner and talked to 5AM. I don't don't know if "they" was a group of friends or just she and Bob. I hate going to Church on Christmas Eve because we have bumped into Bob, wife (I don't know if she knows) and his kids. My in laws still greet him very cordially.

But what really bothers me is that she will make casual comments. This weekend I was channel surfing and there was an old movie. My wife told me she remembers going to that movie with Bob. Only comment she makes but gets my mind going like, yeah, then you went parking and had sex. Of course I don't say anything because I don't want to make a big issue out of it. Once she saw a pregnancy test ad on TV and said " I wish they had those when I was in high school, it would have eliminated alot of worrying". I hate when she makes those types of comments, and like I said, I've asked her not to do that. She never mentions the other guys she dated and slept with and there we quite a few (no secrets in a small college).

So does anyone else have this problem? What did you do because after 35 years of marriage it still bothers me.

My self you letting something eat over you the wrong way. You got the women you been married to for 35 years. Bob didn't you really making a mountain over a mole hill. If you told her many times that she keeps talking about this old flame Bob to this day and it bothers you. it really looks like she been ignoring your talks about not discussing it with you. I say just not make a fuss over it and move on and ignore her chatting about it. You had kids raised they are grown now. If your wife didn't love you she leave you and go seek Bob out but she hasn't so don't rock the boat and live with it just be lucky this all she does that you don't like.