[dragonslut19866]

I understand the porn addiction completely. I personally know someone that was addited to porn and had to go through counseling to get past his addiction Im just saying it seems to be a constant theme on this forum of men masterbating and why and what did I do wrong to cause him to do that.

[WhyNot]

Of course they do!!

I just assumed that this was common knowledge, but I am obviously wrong. First of all, there is nothing wrong with that portion of your marriage, that I can see. Masturbation is so much more involved than the "Sexual" satisfaction received, it is a encoded, natural and expected behavior. People have a need to masturbate, it is a self gratification, acceptance, pleasure, understanding of oneself. I have been married twice, am getting near fourty and I enjoy doing it myself still, especially if my wife is watching, but that is a whole different forum. I can honestly say, you may be putting to much into your husbands porn watching. I really want to say that you are giving us men too much credit, we are really not thinking that deeply about the sex we are watching. I am a soldier, so I am around men constantly, I can say with some small level of authority, masturbation and porn are very normal. Now, if you start finding credit card bills, he is missing work or his level of sex drive diminishes, yes, you may have a problem. When I watch porn, especially now that I am deployed, I look for someone in the "Shot" that reminds me of my wife, her hair, body type, .... You really would be surprised what a man is thinking of sometimes, and, just a little advice, if you think he is masterbating, try giving him a hand and make that moment just about him. Some men get so occupied that they have to make their lady "O" every time, masturbation can be his way of guiltless orgasim for himself, just a thought.

[BandofGypsies]

Men will spank the monkey even when they have a satisfactory sex life, because sometime you want that release and your woman isn't available AND YOU DON'T WANT TO WAIT. I'll picture my gf giving me head and use my sense memory and it's over pretty quick - 'cause she so amazing at doing that.

[bubbles]

i masterbate all the time, at least every other day... it is natural and its your own body, its ok to touch it. watching porn is a way to release sexual tesion, for both men and women. i understand the thought of your man looking at other women and feeling that way but honestly a body is just a body and feelings are real. he loves you, not anything he sees on picture.

[SinisterUrge]

"99% of married men masturbate. The other 1% are liars"

[bubbles]

women do too..... we do. Its just embarrassing to talk about, I think that it is natural. I found out what makes me hot that way. its all about learning about your own body.
People are naturally sexual and its a way of exploring... and it makes us less expecting of our partners, if you need the release.

[Guest]

a body is just a body and feelings are real. he loves you, not anything he sees on picture.

this is true in the context of love being a feeling or an emotion. but if you think of love as a verb - as something you choose to do, actively, then that attitude takes on a whole different light.

i feel the way i do about my wife - i love her. and if i choose to get off on other women's bodies, i still feel the same way about my wife.

but my choices are betraying another attitude. choosing to get off on other women is not actively loving my wife.

if i choose to love my wife, not feel love for her but do the act of loving her - i will resist the urge to get off on other women, the same way i resist the urge to say something hurtful, for example, when i get mad.

i'm not attacking you here - just want to throw that out there. i think it's something lost often today - the idea that love is something actually do, rather than something you passively experience.

[NubbinsUp]

Masturbation is perfectly normal in a healthy adult man. At 15, three times per day, every day, is pretty normal. Even at age 50, once a day is pretty common. Craving self-pleasure in addition to sex with a woman he loves is normal, and I think either a neutral or modelstly desirable trait indicating sexual desire and fantasy. Now, masturbating publicly, for hours at a time, or with the rejection of sex with an available and willing woman he loves are all problematic.

I'm married and I'll say that one of the real benefits of masturbation is that it, and good sense to go along with it, keeps me out of trouble when I'm traveling alone for work, which I have to do freqently.

[Pigeon]

Sometimes I tell my boyfriend to masturbate. He's all about morning loving, and I can be a bit of a crank at 5am, after a bit of nagging I tell him to have some fun in the shower. He's not a huge fan of the act, says it makes him feel a bit lonely and pathetic. It's one of my favorite things to do when I'm alone in the house! It's healthy to explore yourself in my opinion, of course there is a line. Some take it too far. I caught my boy watching porn once after the computer history was mysteriously deleted. To be honest I was a bit offended, but we ended up laughing about it. He had an issue with it back in the day with a low sex drive ex, it motivated me to up the anty a bit and get going on some of those early mornings. I wouldn't be worried at all, but keep talking to him about it. If your sex life is healthy and fulfilling you shouldn't have anything to worry about.

[Fallen1]

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