[yddeh]

Ok, so, heres my situation. I feel much more comfortable talking to women about this than i do a forum full men...

Im 29. Divorced for 2 yrs. I recently met this girl whos absolutely amazing, shes 25, single mom, dropdead gorgeous, and i honestly dont understand why shes with me, LOL. From what shes said of her past relationships shes always been with the alpha male type guy but they never treated her really well and she finally had enough. She tells me shes really happy with me, so glad she met me, and shes introduced me to her mom and son, so i know this is a big deal. Her mom in fact even told me she hadnt brought a man around for the last 4 yrs. I took that hint.

Anyway, as we can see the chemistry is there. Right now our relationship is long distance, she lives 3 hours away. And being a single mom with a little guy whos 7 yrs old, shes usually busy and out of respect for her and her son i havnt tried to stay over, though shes made it quite clear shes very very open to sex with me. ON our dates weve kissed, made out pretty heavily, she gives me butterflies.

Tomorrow shes coming in to see me for the day. Her little guy is in daycore for the day and im playing hookie from work haha. (got my priorities straight!). Im pretty sure its going to happen, i just have that feeling in my gut. Shes been really sugary sweet lately and very open, last night she told me im the only guy whos loved her without taking her to bed first, and she outright said she knows im a good guy and wants me.....wow i was so blown away. but not so blown away i said no! i made it clear im totally ready for that when she is!.

So shes here tomorrow. We'll be alone. But i have somthing i havnt brought up because im a bit embarassed.....She wants to go bareback, and this will be my first time ever doing so. My ex wife would never let me have it without a condom ever... Im a bit nervous im going to go off way too fast because ive never been skin to skin with a woman or cum inside. Weve had the birth control talk and shes on the ring. no issues there. And im not worried about STD's, i have a yearly physical and she says she does too.

Should i explain this to her that shes technically my "first" that way?. SHould i not say anything at all?. Anything i can do to try to last longer?.

[Harmony]

If you're not comfortable having unprotected sex with her then don't feel emasculated/worried about telling her.

Women can't respect men who can't stand up to them. Because women usually take control of contraception in a relationship it doesn't mean thy always have the final say on things such as this. Don't be afraid of scaring her off because she's so hot.

Just because she's 'authorized' bareback sex don't think you have to do it.

However, once things are settled down and trust and health is established you can look into doing it. It does feel different but it's no big deal, it can certainly wait a bit longer if you're not 100% sure.

When you do do it, you'll likely cum a lot quicker as it can be a bit more 'exciting'.

[yddeh]

Hey Harm

no no im VERY comfortable with it, excited even. Im just more nervous about the finishing too fast issue .

I'll post back and advise how it goes .

[Harmony]

I wouldn't worry, just go with the flow like a twig riding the shoulders of a mighty stream.

She'll be looking to treat you anyway. As long as the finishing too soon doesn't happen continuously she'll probably not be bothered, and even if you do it's easily fixable.

[time2discover]

I would let her know. She'll probably be excited about it and at the same time will explain
if you do come quick. Sure it won't be an issue and you guys will have a great day and
hopefully more to come!