I've read through several threads on here and decided to bring another viewpoint to the table.
There seems to be a wealth of ladies here that are worried that the health of their relationship is suffering because of their s/o partaking in porn and masturbation. There also seems to be a small male contingent here that seems to think that every case is "women's insecurity" plain and simple.
Yes, the large majority of men masturbate whether married or not ... sometimes it can unfortunately end up being his only outlet if he doesn't cheat (or at least through his eyes). There are many reasons a man might masturbate on occasion as opposed to seeking the arms of his lover, some of which have been stated before. (disatisfied, frustrated, ect ..)
Another possibility would be that a man feels the need for a release from built up stress, anxiety, mild depression, ect ... and feels that 1. it's not fair to his s/o to use her as a "means to an end" or 2. simply doesn't feel up to putting forth the effort of true love making ...
I'm not saying this is right or wrong but it is another possibility and it does happen. I'd also wager that the above accounts for far more than the dissatisfied, cheating, insecure with himself, ect.. reasoning I've seen previously posted.
IMO, masturbation is normal and unless it is causing true harm to the relationship (i.e. neglect, hard feelings, ect..) shouldn't be looked at negatively by simple default.
As for porn, this is a much "hairier" subject and depends a great deal on those involved.
As with masturbation, a great majority of men look at porn to some extent. The question seems to be "is it ok?" and "how much is to much?"
In some cases, porn can honestly bring something new and fun into a relationship that perhaps has gotten a little "stale" in the bedroom, on the other hand if some one obsesses over it to the point of neglecting their s/o it can and often does cause serious detriment to an otherwise healthy and nurturing relationship.
It is because of this that I see the "it's women's problem, women just being insecure" comments that often come up as little more than a cop-out.
Outside of religious/moral objection, I truly feel that there's little cause for alarm if it turns out your s/o watches porn .. especially if the sexual relationship is (otherwise) healthy and rewarding. It is when one or the other falls into neglect that there should be cause for concern, but even then it's not necessarily just "porn" that's the root of the problem. More than likely there are other factors coming into play.
I'll pause here for response before I ramble on.
There seems to be a wealth of ladies here that are worried that the health of their relationship is suffering because of their s/o partaking in porn and masturbation. There also seems to be a small male contingent here that seems to think that every case is "women's insecurity" plain and simple.
Yes, the large majority of men masturbate whether married or not ... sometimes it can unfortunately end up being his only outlet if he doesn't cheat (or at least through his eyes). There are many reasons a man might masturbate on occasion as opposed to seeking the arms of his lover, some of which have been stated before. (disatisfied, frustrated, ect ..)
Another possibility would be that a man feels the need for a release from built up stress, anxiety, mild depression, ect ... and feels that 1. it's not fair to his s/o to use her as a "means to an end" or 2. simply doesn't feel up to putting forth the effort of true love making ...
I'm not saying this is right or wrong but it is another possibility and it does happen. I'd also wager that the above accounts for far more than the dissatisfied, cheating, insecure with himself, ect.. reasoning I've seen previously posted.
IMO, masturbation is normal and unless it is causing true harm to the relationship (i.e. neglect, hard feelings, ect..) shouldn't be looked at negatively by simple default.
As for porn, this is a much "hairier" subject and depends a great deal on those involved.
As with masturbation, a great majority of men look at porn to some extent. The question seems to be "is it ok?" and "how much is to much?"
In some cases, porn can honestly bring something new and fun into a relationship that perhaps has gotten a little "stale" in the bedroom, on the other hand if some one obsesses over it to the point of neglecting their s/o it can and often does cause serious detriment to an otherwise healthy and nurturing relationship.
It is because of this that I see the "it's women's problem, women just being insecure" comments that often come up as little more than a cop-out.
Outside of religious/moral objection, I truly feel that there's little cause for alarm if it turns out your s/o watches porn .. especially if the sexual relationship is (otherwise) healthy and rewarding. It is when one or the other falls into neglect that there should be cause for concern, but even then it's not necessarily just "porn" that's the root of the problem. More than likely there are other factors coming into play.
I'll pause here for response before I ramble on.
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