[Debra20]

Ok im a little worried about my bff, she is talking alot about giving her vigrinity to her bf. That part is cool he is a really good guy and treats her nice. Im just worried shes getting her hopes up way to much. She is trying to plan it all out, she has the music picked out, she got special sheets for the bed, candles just all kinds of stuff. Today she wants to go shopping for a outfit and shes always talking how great it will be.

I want to try to warn her it probably wont go like she has it planned and it will probably hurt at least thats how it was for me. I guess im just wondering if anybodys first time went like they planned? Do you think i should try to get her expectations lower? Thanks

[lovexlaugh]

There's nothing wrong with making it romantic Try not to make her nervous - if she's worried it'll hurt, she will tense up, won't get aroused and it will hurt even more. If she's happy and heavily into it, it will make her more aroused, meaning it won't hurt as much. Also, it hurts more for some people. She might not be hurt at all It's fine to gently prepare her, just be careful not to get her too nervous.

[time2discover]

I suggest you let her live it out the way she wants for now.
She'll surely let you know how it turns out and then you can be there for her if it wasn't
what she expected. Since we're all different, giving her your first experience feelings, might
be completely opposite to what she will experience. If not you'll be there to let her know it's
normal that our first time is usually not exactly as planned since we really don't know at all
what we're dealing with. With your support, I'm sure she'll be fine whatever the result.
You sound like a good friend!