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  • sarahcar
    Junior Member
    • Apr 2013
    • 3

    How do I ask him to finger me when he's giving me oral?

    I really like receiving oral sex (who doesn't?!) but I just love the combined sensation of both clitoral and vaginal stimulation. The guy I'm seeing is very perceptive to my desires and often asks me what I want him to do during foreplay. The next time he goes down on me, I want to ask him to put a finger in my vagina. But I actually have no idea how I can do that in the midst of receiving oral! The most I say when he's down there are things like "yes!" or "keep going!". Otherwise I'm just breathing heavily and enjoying being in heaven. So, how do I break out of that and tell him to finger me? Any advice on the actual language I could use? I'm not one to use explicit terms but I like to get to the point.
  • tartar sauceee
    Member
    • Apr 2013
    • 18

    if u give him a blowjob, then you will feel more empowered to ask him to do what you want without feelign embarassed. just a suggestion if u don't want to beat aruond the bush (no pun intended)
    Fiance : why are you whining and pouty?? Act like a man!

    Me: Men nowadays can be fickle and emotional and not know what we want. Just like women! Its the 21st century! Its not the 1950's anymore!

    Fiance: grrrr............. thats not how a man is supposed to act!

    Me: Its the 21st century! Hello? Man have emotional rights now! You can't boss my emotions around anymore! This is America...

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    • LisaW1991
      Senior Member
      • Feb 2013
      • 128

      Originally posted by sarahcar
      I really like receiving oral sex (who doesn't?!) but I just love the combined sensation of both clitoral and vaginal stimulation. The guy I'm seeing is very perceptive to my desires and often asks me what I want him to do during foreplay. The next time he goes down on me, I want to ask him to put a finger in my vagina. But I actually have no idea how I can do that in the midst of receiving oral! The most I say when he's down there are things like "yes!" or "keep going!". Otherwise I'm just breathing heavily and enjoying being in heaven. So, how do I break out of that and tell him to finger me? Any advice on the actual language I could use? I'm not one to use explicit terms but I like to get to the point.
      What I have done is slowly grab one of his 1-2 fingers and bring it to my vagina. You might want to try a sex toy instead of a finger, but nothing wrong taking things one step at time.

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      • rcoreyus
        Veteran Member
        • Sep 2007
        • 4369

        Just tell him! Most me want to know more about pleasing their partners, he will probably find it really exciting that you are so aroused that you are begging him for more. Or use your own fingers while he is giving you oral - he will get the idea quickly.

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        • BabyGirl
          Banned
          • May 2010
          • 1665



          The next time he goes down on me, I want to ask him to put a finger in my vagina. But I actually have no idea how I can do that in the midst of receiving oral!
          Simply ask him to use his Finger (s), he's down there, Just say, "Baby fill me with Dexter "
          I used to call my Hubbys Finger ' Dexter ". Yes short for Index finger .. lol

          " Don't stop what you are doing, Yes Right There .. Ooh but Dexter would be awesome right now ".

          Set aside a Time to " name " the body parts outside of Sex. Kinda like people in S&M have a Safe Word..
          You and him can have a great time, making up secret " Names ".

          And at Parties or Gatherings, you two can have Pre Foreplay in Public that can excite you both and no one will know what you are planning for Later .

          Example's
          " I sure can't wait for Muncher and Dexter to come to Virginia's party later tonight "
          " I know for sure that Oralie can't wait to have some time with Big Rod ".

          Now while Tarter seems to have a good Idea in
          tartar sauceee
          if u give him a blowjob, then you will feel more empowered to ask him to do what you want without feelign embarassed. just a suggestion if u don't want to beat aruond the bush (no pun intended)
          This seems kinda Self Serving for the Males. Give me a BJ, Get me Off then I'll consider taking care of you .

          From Personal Experience . of 40 plus years.
          Most in a "Relationship" not just Quickie's Men...Would Prefer and Enjoy making sure the Woman is pleased, well before his BJ or even his Vaginal Ejaculation.

          One must remember that Men can only Get Hard and Ejaculate Once.. Though Viagra type things can keep it hard and longer .
          But once he Ejaculates ..Then they must " rest " and have time in between for the Next Round ".
          While some women, can Climax several times in one Session .

          Now .. some Men , not all, are just into getting " Theirs " first, then once rested.. Might have time for her .
          That is not a Partner I would recommend having. But that's just me .

          Sarah, you seem to have a great Guy there. He is trying, but you do have to speak out about what pleasures you .. How else will he know ? And of course you should make sure to ask him what pleasures him .

          Have Fun , Name your Parts " Secret names "and Enjoy the Learning of each other











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          • Ilove2pleaseu2
            Junior Member
            • Apr 2013
            • 2

            Omg, love it when my lady tells me what to do. Trust me be won't be mad if you ask him to put in a finger or two.

            Do you think he will be upset? Or you just shy to ask?

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            • a_dub
              Veteran Member
              • Dec 2011
              • 514

              How to tell him? Have you tried smoke signals? I've also her sending an emissary used to work wonders in communication not so long ago.

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              • tartar sauceee
                Member
                • Apr 2013
                • 18

                Originally posted by BabyGirl

                Now while Tarter seems to have a good Idea in


                This seems kinda Self Serving for the Males. Give me a BJ, Get me Off then I'll consider taking care of you .

                From Personal Experience . of 40 plus years.
                Most in a "Relationship" not just Quickie's Men...Would Prefer and Enjoy making sure the Woman is pleased, well before his BJ or even his Vaginal Ejaculation.

                One must remember that Men can only Get Hard and Ejaculate Once.. Though Viagra type things can keep it hard and longer .
                But once he Ejaculates ..Then they must " rest " and have time in between for the Next Round ".
                While some women, can Climax several times in one Session .

                Now .. some Men , not all, are just into getting " Theirs " first, then once rested.. Might have time for her .
                That is not a Partner I would recommend having. But that's just me .
                It sounds like if he is already going down on her, its not self serving to give him a bj. its called reciprocation.

                the words "self-serving" and "reciprocation" have vastly different meanings.

                Its not healthy to live in the past always. It might make you miss smelling the flowers dear.
                Fiance : why are you whining and pouty?? Act like a man!

                Me: Men nowadays can be fickle and emotional and not know what we want. Just like women! Its the 21st century! Its not the 1950's anymore!

                Fiance: grrrr............. thats not how a man is supposed to act!

                Me: Its the 21st century! Hello? Man have emotional rights now! You can't boss my emotions around anymore! This is America...

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                • bubba29
                  Senior Member
                  • Feb 2013
                  • 116

                  Originally posted by sarahcar
                  I really like receiving oral sex (who doesn't?!) but I just love the combined sensation of both clitoral and vaginal stimulation. The guy I'm seeing is very perceptive to my desires and often asks me what I want him to do during foreplay.
                  well, you won't get what you want unless you ask. if you are not comfortable with just asking, maybe a few drinks would help you become more relaxed. or maybe watch some porn together where a couple is doing what you want....tell him how awesome that would be.

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