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  • MRD
    Junior Member
    • Jun 2013
    • 3

    Wife Watching Men Masturbate to Her

    Hi all, I’m new here and have a question.

    About 8 years ago my wife started posting her pictures on an amateur site. I was fine with it and I still am. She enjoys the comments and feedback. Of course some men masturbate to her pictures, and she enjoys knowing that also.

    One of the sites she posts on now has a video chat room where she goes sometimes. We agree that she will not go on cam but she does watch guys as they “enjoy” her photos. I’m ok with that if she does it every now and then but it seems like she would be watching guys all the time if I didn’t ask her to stop. She really gets excited seeing them enjoy her. I don’t want to be a prude but I don’t like her spending hours doing that, there always seems to be a line of guys wanting to show her.

    Am I wrong?
  • jns
    Assistant Admin
    • Mar 2010
    • 8398

    It sounds like she has an exhibitionist streak and this is her way of getting validation that she is desirable. Does she watch guys pleasure themselves? Can you live with this? Some guys can, but most guys would have a problem with it.
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    • CoolBreeze
      Senior Member
      • May 2013
      • 112

      First of all kudos to you for having an open mind about your wife indulging in her fantasies. Not all men are like that. If you feel that her online activities are eating into the quality time that you two could be spending together, then talk with her about it. Show her that you are man enough to accept her the way she is and on top of that you could work on developing ideas and concepts that cater to both you and her tastes together.

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      • MRD
        Junior Member
        • Jun 2013
        • 3

        Originally posted by jns
        It sounds like she has an exhibitionist streak and this is her way of getting validation that she is desirable. Does she watch guys pleasure themselves? Can you live with this? Some guys can, but most guys would have a problem with it.

        Originally posted by CoolBreeze
        First of all kudos to you for having an open mind about your wife indulging in her fantasies. Not all men are like that. If you feel that her online activities are eating into the quality time that you two could be spending together, then talk with her about it. Show her that you are man enough to accept her the way she is and on top of that you could work on developing ideas and concepts that cater to both you and her tastes together.
        Thanks for the replies.

        She is a bit of a exhibitionist, posting her pictures has brought more of that side out. And yes she does watch the guys masturbate, most until they ejaculate. Since the chat room is on the same site as she posts pictures on she can send the guys links to her pictures and watch their reaction.

        I really don't care about her watching these guys sometimes. I look at porn sometimes so I don't see it as much different. She sometimes masturbates as she watches the guys pleasure themselves to her nude and sex pictures just as I might masturbate to a video. I guess I just have a different idea about how much is to much.

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        • LisaW1991
          Senior Member
          • Feb 2013
          • 128

          Maybe she could consider doing it to make money (legally) if she going to be doing is most of her free time.

          Its not something I could do, but women can make a lot of money doing the things she likes to do. Hundreds if not thousands per day. And I would imagine those who enjoy doing it are very good at it.

          I read somewhere that porn is a multi-billion dollar business which include major corporations such the world largest Hotel corporations; in room video porn being their biggest profit makers, so those in the porn business are not just limited to those on the fringe of society.

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          • MRD
            Junior Member
            • Jun 2013
            • 3

            Originally posted by LisaW1991
            Maybe she could consider doing it to make money (legally) if she going to be doing is most of her free time.

            Its not something I could do, but women can make a lot of money doing the things she likes to do. Hundreds if not thousands per day. And I would imagine those who enjoy doing it are very good at it.

            I read somewhere that porn is a multi-billion dollar business which include major corporations such the world largest Hotel corporations; in room video porn being their biggest profit makers, so those in the porn business are not just limited to those on the fringe of society.
            She has had offers, but we both decided we can't do that. She is quite sexy (big boobs) and in her 40s, so she kind of fits a type some guys like. She gets requests often from her "fans" for thing like that (videos) and they are willing to pay. That seems a little to close to prostitution for her I guess. What she does is for fun.

            I spoke to her and told her I posted here. She is interested I hearing from you all about this, I think when I bring it up she is a bit embarrassed to discuss it. She's not embarrassed to masturbate (loudly!) in front of me as she watches a guy stroke to her pictures but she does not like to talk about it after.

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            • Palerider
              Member
              • Feb 2013
              • 40

              My husband fantasizes about watching me have sex with other men, so I know for sure he'd be turned on by the idea of them masturbating to me!

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              • MissterDog
                Junior Member
                • Jul 2013
                • 4

                No you are not wrong. As her husband you should be able to express yourself on how you feel. I think you are already being really open and accepting by being okay with her activities within moderation. There is no way you could possibly be a prude. Express to her that you are concerned about her enjoyment of watching other men becoming a priority. Remember, BOTH of you need to be comfortable with this. Just remember, communication is key.

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                • hippy4life
                  Junior Member
                  • Jul 2013
                  • 4

                  I'm just not that open minded and I know for sure my boyfriend would leave me in a heartbeat if I EVER DID THAT!!!

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