Okay, so I'll start with a little info about myself. I'm a female, 17 years old. Me and my boyfriend of 2 years had sex a few months ago (April) for the first time. I wear and had worn tampons previous to that night. I've never visited a gynecologist, although I plan to start sometime this year.
After we had sex, I was expecting to bleed, because how I understand it, it's normal and supposed to happen when the hymen is broken. Of course, it was painful, and the almost unbearable pinching at the first penetration made me think, "oh, well there's going to be blood for sure. That was terrible." (Don't get me wrong enjoyable after.) Anyways, afterwards I realized that I hadn't bled, and I think he was feeling embarassed, like he hadn't "accomplished" anything. (This is what I gathered from the look on his face after the supposed time of his realization...)
We've had sex on multiple occasions since then, and I think that he forgot about the bleeding situation. Now, thinking about it again, I'm wondering if it's normal. I don't want to address it with him, in fear of him feeling insufficient, or insecure about his "manhood". Does this necessarily mean that he's small? He's about, 6.5 - 7 inches. If it doesn't mean that he's necessarily smaller in that region, does it mean that I'm not normal, in some way?
Even if we're both fine and it's normal, I believe that he's still going to feel insufficient. We haven't talked about it since that night, but his mind must beg the question at some points, right? It's going to come out someday, "oh yeah..you never bled..." How do I let him know that it's not his "fault"? I feel I might make the situation awkward or hurtful.
I may be overthinking some of these things to a degree. I just wanted some input. If anyone could answer even one of these it'd be helpful. (:
After we had sex, I was expecting to bleed, because how I understand it, it's normal and supposed to happen when the hymen is broken. Of course, it was painful, and the almost unbearable pinching at the first penetration made me think, "oh, well there's going to be blood for sure. That was terrible." (Don't get me wrong enjoyable after.) Anyways, afterwards I realized that I hadn't bled, and I think he was feeling embarassed, like he hadn't "accomplished" anything. (This is what I gathered from the look on his face after the supposed time of his realization...)
We've had sex on multiple occasions since then, and I think that he forgot about the bleeding situation. Now, thinking about it again, I'm wondering if it's normal. I don't want to address it with him, in fear of him feeling insufficient, or insecure about his "manhood". Does this necessarily mean that he's small? He's about, 6.5 - 7 inches. If it doesn't mean that he's necessarily smaller in that region, does it mean that I'm not normal, in some way?
Even if we're both fine and it's normal, I believe that he's still going to feel insufficient. We haven't talked about it since that night, but his mind must beg the question at some points, right? It's going to come out someday, "oh yeah..you never bled..." How do I let him know that it's not his "fault"? I feel I might make the situation awkward or hurtful.
I may be overthinking some of these things to a degree. I just wanted some input. If anyone could answer even one of these it'd be helpful. (:
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