[musicman185]

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i have read numerous articles on female ejacution. she has intense orgasms when i stimulate her gspot with my hand using the "come hither" motion. she says it is different than a clitoral orgasm. everything seems to be right except for the ejaculation part. i have to told her many times not to worry about the urge to pee. in every squirting movie i've watched, the women seem to be more relaxed during the orgasm than my girlfriend is. when she begins to orgasm, she immediately tenses up and closes her legs together, forcing my hand away. after she has orgasmed, she says she has to pee very badly. every article seems to be different as to whether you should relax or push. do any of you women have any tips? maybe used to be in the same situation?

[musicman185]

another thing i'm unsure of, is do i stop fingering her when she begins to cum? or do i keep going until she's done? in the movies, the guy always stops when the girl begins to orgasm, and thats when she ejaculates.

[momof4girlz]

Well, the first thing you need to do is be on the same page. Does she want to squirt or is it a matter of you wanting her to? Bother partners need to be in agreement to try.
Next, some women are freaked out in urinating at the same time. Unlike men we don't have that 'valve' to shut off urine like men do when they ejaculate. So some urine can come through when it happens. With that it can freak us out a little. So in this breath encouragement comes a very long way. If she should happen to let go , say things like ' Good girl,' or something like " that was beautiful , it turns me on." or tell her how beautiful she is. Women need to be encouraged because we spend most of our lives growing up being told to be good girls, and anything other then that we are ****s.
Also having towels , or those absorbent pads are helpful. Maybe having one below her might encourage her from thinking that she is peeing the bed( which is what she is thinking).

It sounds as if your doing it correctly if she is feeling that urge. That urge can feel differently though. Some feel it as an urge to urinate, some feel it like a tingling sensation ( like I do), some just flow. Either way its not a wrong way.
You want to stop as soon as she starts to flow , and I recommend pulling out. My husband likes to keep his hand in there but its not very comfortable to me. I'd rather him pull his hand out. I know he wants to feel it though and that's why he does it. But again, its very individual though, she may like you having your hand still there.

As for the feeling, its the most amazing feeling a woman could ever have in her life. I explained to my husband its like a million fireworks going off in your body. Don't be surprised should her body convuls afterwards its that intense. Its no where near the same as a clitoral orgasm. Its a million times better. Since I learned about about and have experienced it , I believe women are really missing out by holding back. What your girlfriend does as far as holding back is very natural. Its not something we are taught about so most women don't know about it unless it happens to them accidently or they just by chance happen to read about it on the internet ( like I did). We all don't sit around talking about it, but then maybe in the future that might change


As for how a woman can ejaculate... its a combination of both. Your body has to be relaxed.... something that is very hard to do at first because you want to tense up. Then when you feel that urge you have to push.

I hoped that answers all of your questions. But honestly in order for squirting to work both partners have to be on the same page and she has to want to do it.
Oh another thought too, if it is to much for her to squirt in bed, you may want to try with her sitting on the toilet. That may take some of that stigma of 'peeing' ( which it isn't) out of her mind too.. Or even better, in the shower.

[Obelisk]

Do what the girl likes most. Ask her if she wants you to keep on rubbing her when she is cumming.

And what's with the squirting stuff? I'm happy if my girl gets off, I don't need to see/care about any extra hydraulic show. If she squirted naturally I wouldn't care either. Just whatever felt better for her.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Projecting a thought into someone's mind, based on what you've seen and consequently want from that person, makes them nervous.

Letting a woman be herself because you want her to be, want her to enjoy herself and don't care for your needs at all, makes her feel loved. Natural.

You can't make her because she knows it's what you want, as apposed to her being able to just be herself, if it ever happened it did, if it didn't it didn't matter. Hence she closes her legs..

[YoungButNotRestless]

Hello. That's a great technique to use for beginner's if you're trying to make a woman squirt. Squirting, for me, is a lot different from clitoral simulation, because I usually achieve it through the G-spot. The urge to pee is natural and most women are scared that they might urinate on their partner, and it can instill fear. The best thing to do is if she seems uncomfortable, ask her if it's fine... look at her body language, if her legs are shaking, she's taking in some nice breaths and her hands are unclenched (Unless that's just a thing she does while having an O.) then she is likely relaxed and okay with having to squirt. Now, I suggest putting a towel under her when she is ready and willing to let her body do this... because there will be a LOT. (I once received oral in a chair for my birthday... let's just say there was a huge pool on the floor.) It all depends. I usually have my man continue to keep me going and really enhance my orgasm. My muscles in my abs naturally clench very tightly when this happens to really push everything out. So sometimes if you continue and she clenches, it can be painful. So take care to make her comfortable! Squirting is ALL about being comfortable. Personally, I have always been a 'squirter'. Ever since my first time masturbarting, I was unable to stop and when I thought I had peed, I did some research and figured out it's actually very erotic for men. So I have a lot of experience with this.

P.S. Ask her if she is ready and comfortable with this. Explain and give her a little education on what's happening. There are actually studies on female ejaculation and this is perfectly normal... plus, tell her how sexy she looks. EVERY woman wants to feel like at least one man thinks they're sexy.

[wino33]

One thing you may also want to try while doing the "come hither" motion, is to press lightly down with your other hand on top of the pelvic region your fingering. You should be able to feel your fingers through her skin, but you don't want to push down too hard.