[blondeberry27]

My boyfriend is 25 we have been dating for about 6 months. When we first got together and up until about a month ago we had sex 2-3 times a day. It has decreased now to about 1 maybe 2 times per day. Before there were never any issues about him being able to stay erect, we do not use condoms I am on the pill I know that can cause issues for some men. He will be hard I will give fellatio but then when he goes to have intercourse he becomes soft. I can even continue to give oral and he cannot get erect again. I felt like I was doing something wrong but he say's he doesn't know why it happens, that it's not me but that he hopes it will just stop happening. What can I do to help him? This is really putting a damper in our sex life :/

[rcoreyus]

Stress makes this worse, so do your best to have fun in other sexual ways and it may just go away. The more he worries, the worse it will get

[kira]

Alot of 25 year olds probably can't accomplish 5 times a day for an extended period of time. 3 would be pushing it. At 28 my husband was down to accomplishing once a day with occasional failures. Part of it is a new relationship will increase libido and after so many months it drops. For the first 4 months or so of our relationship we had sex about 4 times a day. Now we couldn't do that even with pills.

It's also self fulfilling. We went a month where he couldn't accomplish sex at all because he'd worry he wouldn't stay hard or he wouldn't finish and it caused him to lose his erection. People worry too much about getting to orgasm and making that their goal. It helps to back off and just enjoy what you can get. Sometimes you have to get each other to orgasm other ways and forget sex until confidence returns.