[kira]

All the extra stuff she's doing and buying can be a common side effect of depression. Depression lowers self esteem and confidence. Buying sexy clothes and fishing for comments helps boost it and has nothing to do with sex itself.

Women seem to have this ability to turn off their sex drive or tone it way down when certain things happen in a relationship or their mood is not good. Usually they start to feel sex is monotonous or their partner isn't meeting their needs in some way. Rather than get frustrated the sex drive just turns off and things they liked before they no longer want. I've been there several times. I have an extreme sex drive but my first bf was very selfish and would not listen or learn so I just quit wanting sex with him. We'd go months between. On the flip side I bother my husband nightly because we have a healthy relationship both about sex and about the rest. I have lately been telling him not to do things I used to greatly enjoy though because I am getting a bit bored but he sent me wandering around my favorite online sex store with a $50 budget and I found something I'd never heard of to try. I'm working on making him more adventurous so he can keep up with me and we never reach that point of not feeling like sex.

[Lady Syrinx]

[QUOTE=kira;357553]All the extra stuff she's doing and buying can be a common side effect of depression. Depression lowers self esteem and confidence. Buying sexy clothes and fishing for comments helps boost it and has nothing to do with sex itself.[\QUOTE]

True, but what the medication tends to do is diminishes or kills the ability to have an orgasm or even enjoy sex at all. Like all things in life, if, you don`t enjoy it then it becomes unnecessary. But then you begin to become more depressed. I was virtually asexual, I started to feel less feminine. I wanted desperstely to enjoy sex with my husband, but I didn`t have the self-confidence to leave my psychiatrist because I deluded myself into believing what he told me. Lexapro is the only thing that will help you. He was never that blunt but that was the message I received when my concerns were ignored or minimized. And my request to change medications was essentially laughed at.