[jolicoeur]

So I'm sorry if I sound vulgar,but I really want to understand what is going on with me. I dont find any kind of pleasure in sex. Not oral or vaginal. I've had multiple sex partners with many different sizes (Very very long and wide to very short and thin) and nothing seems to please me. I admit that I am a "humper" though. Every since I was a little kid I've been gathering sheets in a ball in humping them until I have an orgasm/ This is very embarrassing and uncomfortable. Guys tell me that my vagina is very good,wet,tight, etc. but I just fake it with them. Am I the only person with this problem?

[BambooEarrings]

I was JUST like you once upon a time! Really.

I did the pillow humping thing though... but I didn't have an orgasm with a guy during sex until I was like 21 (had been with about 5 or 6 guys before that-- one for an entire year of faking!!)

I guess I mentally liked sex and that's why I still did it back then, and it was nice to be close to them and everything.

Looking back on it, they were prob. too immature or selfish to even really try helping me, although I added to the problem by faking!

The way it happened the first time was I was on top. In fact many women can ONLY have an orgasm during sex while on top. If you really want to orgasm during sex, I would recommend first of all to completely stop masturbating, which may be difficult for a while, and also STOP FAKING! If the guy is worth your time he will actually do things to get you to orgasm... if you are faking, then why would they even try?

Try being on top, and instead of sitting up, lay down all the way so your clit can rub more against him. Just keep moving different ways until you find something that feels good and from there it will eventually happen. Sometimes you get into a psychological thing where you think it's impossible and then you think about it too much and you are like worrying during sex which is def. not going to make it happen.

After a while, I was able to orgasm in almost every position. The main thing for us pillow/blanket humping types (LMAO!) is that you make sure you are getting good clit rubbing action and even better if you are in control of it.

And if you stop faking it and he doesn't even try to make you come or care or ask, then he is prob. a selfish a hole anyway so you might want to think about that.

[jolicoeur]

Oh my! I never thought about it like that, but I don't want to hurt my boyfriend's feelings or make him feel as though he is doing something wrong. Also yes! I continue to have intercourse because of the same reason. I love the kissing, touching, and feeling of being close, but that's all!
I'm going to definitely try this though and thank you for replying with great advice !

[BambooEarrings]

Oh my! I never thought about it like that, but I don't want to hurt my boyfriend's feelings or make him feel as though he is doing something wrong. Also yes! I continue to have intercourse because of the same reason. I love the kissing, touching, and feeling of being close, but that's all!
I'm going to definitely try this though and thank you for replying with great advice !

Ok... I wish you all the best.

Just trust me that it IS possible, and I know exactly where you are coming from.

I've actually been married for 2 years (dated him for 2 years before that) and I can honestly say I've NEVER faked it with him and I orgasm about 95% of the time we have sex-- usually 2x during sex and once 5 times! If I don't come during sex and he just can't wait any longer (which is kind of hot) then he will finish me off with his hand after, or sometimes I just finish by rubbing on his thigh or hand. But I usually come after only 5 min. on top of him, or 10 min in other positions.

I'm telling you all this so you know there's hope! I used to think that there was something wrong with me! I just hadn't figured out what I needed to do during sex and also it helps to have a man who knows what he is doing and is not selfish.

Don't tell him you've been faking though!!! THAT will crush him. Just try once, not faking and see how he responds. If he doesn't care, that will tell you a lot. Most likely if you give yourself and him a chance, that is when things will change. It might take several times though, so just experiment.

[tinycit]

Do you masturbate? Do you orgasm when you masturbate? What do you do when you masturbate?

In my case it takes a lot of build up, kissing, manual stimulation with him applying pressure to my pelvic area, then having him use his tongue directly on my clit with extreme tongue pressure. Without the build up and especially without the pressure I get nothing. I'm so glad he's got a strong tongue!