[missunderstood9097]

I'm sure this kind of thing has been posted before, I've seen it on a few sites. But I really just was hoping for some kind of advice or something.

I am one of the women that cannot orgasm from sex. The only thing I've ever orgasm'd from is through clitorous stimulation; tongue and hand. I know some girls just can't orgasm through sex but because of it I just am never interested in having sex with my boyfriend. I try not to be selfish and I give him sex, but it's almost a chore to me because I get nothing out of it. (so unfair). I don't want sex to be a chore. I am never even in the mood, it's almost bothersome when he asks because it's so pointless for me. Am I going to have to go through life just never experiencing sex like most do? Never having the drive or want to do sexual things with my boyfriend? Why am I like this? Why can't I just orgasm through my vagina. UGH! Well thanks for reading guys

[jns]

It may be best to find a boyfriend who loves to give oral. Trying to convert a boyfriend probably won't work.

[missunderstood9097]

It may be best to find a boyfriend who loves to give oral. Trying to convert a boyfriend probably won't work.

Well, he does love to give oral. And thats great. But I just want to be able to enjoy sex. Even if I don't orgasm every time, or at all, I don't want it to be a chore or annoying to me. Cause obviously he enjoys the hell out of it. I just don't understand why I can't and i dont want me never wanting to jump at sex to ruin anything between us

[kira]

Is having an orgasm by other means before or after sex not enough to get you interested? If I don't enjoy myself enough during sex my husband always offers to use toys on me. Most of the time I have a crazy sex drive and I'll take anything I can get but preferably if it doesn't happen during sex an orgasm from oral before or from toys after. Right now my insomnia and meds are screwing with things so we've had sex maybe twice a month and never used toys the past few months when it's usually a daily thing until my husband's sex drive is used up and he can't hold an erection for a few days. Then we start again. I rarely orgasm from sex its self and I still find it quite enjoyable.

[FoxPaws]

I've got the same exact problem as you. My boyfriend loves to give me oral and will totally spoil me if I let him, and I do find him insanely attractive and everything. But I simply cannot feel any sort of sex drive. We've tried EVERYTHING. Showering together, giving each other sensual massages, going out on a nice date, going s l o o o o w w w, being rough. Nothing. Not even the slightest bit of anything. I don't know what it is, but it's putting a big damper on our relationship and I want to fix it

[DreamP346]

I've got the same exact problem as you. My boyfriend loves to give me oral and will totally spoil me if I let him, and I do find him insanely attractive and everything. But I simply cannot feel any sort of sex drive. We've tried EVERYTHING. Showering together, giving each other sensual massages, going out on a nice date, going s l o o o o w w w, being rough. Nothing. Not even the slightest bit of anything. I don't know what it is, but it's putting a big damper on our relationship and I want to fix it

Are you on birth control or other meds? Birth control pills and many of the depression medications reduce/destroy sex drive.