Hi all, I have been with my fiancé 2 years, at the beginning our sex life was good, then I went onto bc and I lost the interest for sex, I stayed on bc for about 3 months, once I came off it out relationship didn't get any better even though my sex drive was back, my partner seemed to have lost interest in sex. I have said to him about it and his reply is that he had to do without it for almost 3 months so he got used to not having any and stuck in a rut so to speak. Things have not changed we rarely make love even though I want to so much. He masturabates as I have caught him when he thinks I am asleep, on the rare occasion we do make love he pulls out and won't come inside me, sometimes he doesn't seem to come at all. I have noticed that after a night out he will be looking sex all night long but it is pointless as he then can't come and seems to only want anal. How can I fix this I have already told him that we rarely have sex but he doesn't seem bothered. We don't feel close yes he tells me he loves me but intimacy is not there, it's got to the point a kiss is awkward now. Sex happens about once a month. Is it my fault as I deprived him from sex while on bc?
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In another post you say that you want children and he doesn't. Likely a major source of this problem. -
I agree with rc.I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
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