[Stormbringer]

Here's the situation my girlfriend and I are having:

- Her clitoris and outer vagina are insensitive. I don't do any cunnilingus anymore because [quote] "she can read a paper" (just in case: it means that she doesn’t feel anything).
- Her G-spot is sensitive. Although she wants me to be rough and hard, she does enjoy that. Also, make her squirt easily every time (mostly with one or two fingers). Well, not really “squirt” like a water tap with a lot of pressure, but she loses about 0.5-0.8 litre of liquid in 10 minutes. Anyway, we need a lot of paper towels to clean her mess up on the floor. At least, when fingering.
- After a while of these losses of fluids she says that she is enjoying it a little less than at the beginning of the session, while she loses the liquid more easily and more in quantity.
- The sum of these things, the real problem: she doesn’t climax at all…

So it’s impossible to let her have an orgasm while stimulating her outer vagina, and the stimulation on her inner vagina is not enough, although it’s very rough and she “squirts” a lot.

Additional information:
- She did have orgasms (about three times) with her earlier sex experiences. Ironically enough, that was with her “outer vagina” (I’m sorry, I can’t recall the right phrase for this in English).
- I am pretty good at cunnilingus and with the fingers. I did have good results with other women anyway. And since my girlfriend is squirting, at least my fingering is not that bad!
- I’m afraid that I, personally, have some issues with premature ejaculation, which I’m working on.

So it’s a terrible situation, since I feel very sorry for my girlfriend that she doesn’t climax. Also for me personally: I get a lot of satisfaction when my woman is having a good time and an orgasm. And I am pretty sure girls love good oral sex (combined with fingering), and I’m very sorry that this has no effect anymore with my current girlfriend - I loved doing it too!

Long story, but any tips would be welcome! Thanks a lot in advance!

[jen1447]

If she really has issues with insensitivity (and not, say, overstimulation), that may be a medical issue. She should see her doctor. It's good she squirts I suppose, but that typically goes hand in hand with orgasms. (Does for me anyway, though I guess there is a fair amount of variation among women.) So I don't know that just getting her to ejaculate is itself a desirable goal if she's not experiencing pleasure from it (unless the fluid is some sort of psychological turnon for her or you or both). Really, see the doc.

[tinyclitt]

Please Stop worrying about her and let her do the worrying about herself. If she's squirting, you're doing a good job and she's having a good time. Sex for women doesn't always have to be about the big "O".