[BrooklynBabe]

So Im 21 and highly sexually frustrated. I have a partner and we both enjoy each other especially in the bedroom, yet I seem to want more and more. This man officially made me cum. I kno he does almost everytime. Yet Im always horny on top of that I masterbate like 6-8 times a day. I need a ******** break cause Im having trouble functioning without the D and its very annoying. So please advice?

[jen1447]

I don't quite understand - you're sexually frustrated after masturbating many times a day, on top of what sounds like frequent sex with your man? Or are you saying you want advice on how to cool down?

[hot amy]

So Im 21 and highly sexually frustrated. I have a partner and we both enjoy each other especially in the bedroom, yet I seem to want more and more. This man officially made me cum. I kno he does almost everytime. Yet Im always horny on top of that I masterbate like 6-8 times a day. I need a **************** break cause Im having trouble functioning without the D and its very annoying. So please advice?

How can you be sexually frustrated with all this action? I would be frustrated if I was getting no sex but you! What more do you want! How much more can you take! Get an addition hobby

[Justice]

I think I get it. I mentioned in another thread that I used to be satisfied masturbating a couple times a month Then a gy I met started coming on strong and writing highly erotic/sexual emails.

I went from being satisfied with my couple times a month (single/virgin) and not that aroused to masturbating several times a day. (Although I cannot seem to have the same kind of orgasms I had been having.) So for the last couple of months most days I do it a few times a day and/or have spent up to 2 hours at night playing with toys. Now I feel great while I am playing and started "ejaculating" after a while, but am not "finishing" in the way that leave me satisfied. And that leaves me frustrated (and tired ) as well.

[jen1447]

Okay, I think I understand. Is BrooklynBabe having the same lack of satisfaction from her orgasms? If so, I've heard that some women have issues with their clits being overly sensitive, so that while they're aroused more during sexually heightened times, they still can't 'endure' the clitoral stimulation. Justice, can you describe your unhappy finishes in more detail?

[Justice]

I used to use a little homedics massager (not overly powerful, but vibrated well with fresh batteries ) mostly above (not on my clit) and almost always laying face down. I am (was?) a virgin and was still tight so only externally. But most times within a few minutes I would get waves/spasms of an orgasm (not every time but almost). ANd it would not only feel good but be like a release of sexual tension.

So I mentioned on another post that I used dilators to stretch myself a bit when I was considering to finally have sex with that guy. Since then I almost never orgasm that way even if I play the same way. What had started happening is that I tried some new toys (when the other one was not longer working and a few times with a bullet I was able to O. (my bullet broke and I haven't gotten a new one yet but the original massager don't seem to do it anymore). I got a couple other toys )G-vibe and a small butterfly/rabbit type. The g-vibe feels incredible but even when I use it mostly around my clitoris, I still cannot have the "release"/spasm'y type orgasm. I do get little tiny waves feeling and now I guess I am ejaculating (gushing?) but it is like I end up "unfinished". Even though it feels great as well, it makes me feel like I am not done and I keep feeling frustrated. So it is like I have "blue vulva"?

I did read one other post somewhere where someone else described that after they started playing vaginally that they couldn't orgasm the same. A couple of male posters responded to an early post when I asked about stronger vibrators/massagers. I did buy a wand, but it is so big and therefore does not hit the same spots - and since i mostly finished face down (I saw a guy post that his GF only could O when laying on her stomach as well), the wand has not been much help. )

Jen, I appreciate the question.

[jen1447]

I can see how the wand might be overkill for you, as those things are like industrial grade power tools. I think you may need to go in the lesser direction, not more.

I'm not a sex therapist, so don't take this as gospel or anything, but have you ever had g-spot orgasms? Or is the penetration too uncomfortable for you. Do you have penetrative sex with your man, and if so, how does that go? Do you climax satisfyingly then?

As regards gushing or squirting, I cum that way too. I always used to gush (what I consider releasing fluid - not pee - but not spraying it all over) at the very end of long sessions, and it almost seemed to be more of a product of exhaustion, like my vagina was finally giving in. This was almost always after a lot of previous orgasms, and my partner would usually get me to do it through some very deep and relentless massaging with fingers. (There's a whole 'science'/technique behind it.) I recently learned to squirt, but that's different for me - spraying, and more from clitoral stimulation. Do you gush specifically from clitoral (or clit area) masturbation? And do you cum when you gush? How satisfyingly?

Anyway you might try to see how and if g-spot massage might work for you instead, if your clit is holding you back. I wouldn't want you to give up on your clit though, so maybe consider seeing a doctor or therapist about why she's not cooperating with you at the moment. A happy girl is friends with her clit.

(Oh, and get another bullet - quick!)

[Lady Syrinx]

So Im 21 and highly sexually frustrated. I have a partner and we both enjoy each other especially in the bedroom, yet I seem to want more and more. This man officially made me cum. I kno he does almost everytime. Yet Im always horny on top of that I masterbate like 6-8 times a day. I need a **************** break cause Im having trouble functioning without the D and its very annoying. So please advice?

Same church, different pew. I`m quite a bit older than you and I can relate to the first part of your post. Sex with my husband is like heroin. I can`t get enough even though he gives me multiples every or nearly every time. I.

[Justice]

Sorry so long but I appreciate the "conversation".

(Oh, and get another bullet - quick!) lol yes that needs to be my next purchase
I can see how the wand might be overkill for you, as those things are like industrial grade power tools. I think you may need to go in the lesser direction, not more.
I can see that - because exploring with my fingers now more than before, but while it feels good, that is kind of all.

[I}I'm not a sex therapist, so don't take this as gospel or anything, but have you ever had g-spot orgasms? Or is the penetration too uncomfortable for you. Do you have penetrative sex with your man, and if so, how does that go? Do you climax satisfyingly then?
As regards gushing or squirting, I cum that way too. I always used to gush (what I consider releasing fluid - not pee - but not spraying it all over) at the very end of long sessions, and it almost seemed to be more of a product of exhaustion, like my vagina was finally giving in. This was almost always after a lot of previous orgasms, and my partner would usually get me to do it through some very deep and relentless massaging with fingers. (There's a whole 'science'/technique behind it.) I recently learned to squirt, but that's different for me - spraying, and more from clitoral stimulation. Do you gush specifically from clitoral (or clit area) masturbation? And do you cum when you gush? How satisfyingly?
Anyway you might try to see how and if g-spot massage might work for you instead, if your clit is holding you back. I wouldn't want you to give up on your clit though, so maybe consider seeing a doctor or therapist about why she's not cooperating with you at the moment. A happy girl is friends with her clit. [/I]

To a couple questions points: "but have you ever had g-spot orgasms? Or is the penetration too uncomfortable for you. Do you have penetrative sex with your man, and if so, how does that go? Do you climax satisfyingly then?"

I think that is mostly what I have been having - the G-Vibe can vibrate against my g-spot (or in multiple places) - apparently from what I've read that causes a build up of fluid (ejaculate) that if you push out instead of stopping (or "pulling in") will be released instead of pulled back into your bladder(?). But now I don't think that I ****NEE******** all g-spot stimulation, but around my clitoris can trigger them it as well. It is kind of what I would call mini "o's" rather that a big O and, with or right after each "little o" I have little "waves" of gushing ( like you wrote, a little release of hot fluid feeling like it is coming from a bit further in) clear and kind of watery. (It does kind of water down my natural lube and the lube I occasionally use.) It does feel great but not like the spasms of what I consider my (prior) usual orgasms. And I feel like I can go on and on. I can have lots and lots of these little very mini "o" and a little gush (no squirting) after each one, but I never really feel finished. By the time I quit the towels are wet, but I am just wet not lubricated, but also my labia are still, I guess, engorged? I don't know how else to describe it. I joking said it was like blue vulva (the female equivalent of blue balls). (I usually am tired by the end as well – and it had been where I have not been getting enough sleep)

I am still "technically a virgin" I finally got to where I was ready (and by finally I mean a couple weeks not months) to go the FWB route with this guy (who was seducing me) and when I started talking logistics (how and when we would get together, and I felt that we were becoming friends, not a stranger, ick) because as a virgin - and other reasons - I did not want to be a ONS or FB), and he started pulled back HARD (a separate story ) . I had finally (I am over 50) felt free (past menopause and cannot get pregnant) and other reasons decided I wanted to be with him and he pulled away. So I feel funny calling myself a virgin here (because I have been having a lot of solo sex) at this point but "technically" I still am one.

The guy is in a relationship (although it sounded pretty weak and like roommates – and in some checking a little it seemed like he was telling the truth) and had proposed FWB. I have never really been interested before, but for some reason he pushed all the right buttons, combined with his erotic sensual emails, and some other factors going on in my life, combined with my being past the point of getting pregnant, I have been like a horny teen. But when I started asking about the logistics, I don't know if that made it more real (than just fantasy)for him, or he decided that he did not want to go outside his relationship (he claimed no sex or intimacy and even asked if I was past that point so I assume that is what his SO keeps telling him, since he mentioned that several times) ****OR**** despite his claim that he wanted FWB, he may have only wanted FB or a ONS and I said no to that. We still email (less often) and I saw him a few weeks ago on a platonic basis for a project. But I am annoyed because I was perfectly fine with my sexual situation before I met him and now I am not.


Jen you may not BE a therapist but you certainly are helpful. Thanks

[jen1447]

You're welcome Justice, that's very sweet of you to say.

I think that is mostly what I have been having - the G-Vibe can vibrate against my g-spot (or in multiple places) - apparently from what I've read that causes a build up of fluid (ejaculate) that if you push out instead of stopping (or "pulling in") will be released instead of pulled back into your bladder(?).

Well if you're already doing it, you know. I don't know all the physiology behind it, but yeah, more or less you don't suppress the sensation that you're going to pee, but when stimulated properly in the right regions, the pee reflex will actually result in squirt. I really don't know what it is honestly, because I can pee before sex and still gush or squirt this magic fluid lol. I guess it's also stored in the bladder ...don't really care honestly, I just know I'm not peeing and it feels great.

but around my clitoris can trigger them it as well.

Okay, so you have the clit variety too. That's great. For me, the squirt variety is different from the gush variety based on the type of orgasm that goes with it, specifically with the physiological reaction of my body. Hard to describe without getting really graphic lol, but let's just say the types of release are different. When I gush, I typically have a very long, sustained orgasm that's always the last one for a while, but squirting orgasms can be repeated quite a lot and are more likely to be associated with the multiples or 'cresting' feeling. (I can have more than one orgasm per squirt, in other words.)

And I feel like I can go on and on. I can have lots and lots of these little very mini "o" and a little gush (no squirting) after each one, but I never really feel finished. By the time I quit the towels are wet, but I am just wet not lubricated, but also my labia are still, I guess, engorged? I don't know how else to describe it. I joking said it was like blue vulva (the female equivalent of blue balls). (I usually am tired by the end as well – and it had been where I have not been getting enough sleep)

Hon, this may be oversimplyfying but it sounds to me like you're just not done. Maybe try going on until you get that or those big ones. I know it's tiring and even exhausting, but I find when I really push myself beyond the usual limits is when I have the most mind-blowing orgasms. You can always sleep later.

I am still "technically a virgin" ... But I am annoyed because I was perfectly fine with my sexual situation before I met him and now I am not.

I understand. Don't worry, men are just weird a lot of the time. I'd just go with the flow of being extra stimulated for now and try to take advantage of the pleasure it could bring. I think you'll figure it all out before long.