[shoshannah]

Does anyone here ever deliberately make their guy orgasm before he would like to? During the week after my period (i.e. the first level of pills), I tend to be dryer than during the rest of my cycle, and so sex can get uncomfortable if it goes on too long (even with artificial lube). So often during that week I’ll go ahead and bring my fiance to a quick finish when we have intercourse, even (or especially) when I know he’s trying to hold out. I try not to be too obvious about it, although I think he knows the situation, and if I just told him the problem he'd be OK with it, but I don't want him not to enjoy himself at all or be worried about me, so this is my solution. Still, doing this does make me feel a little selfish sometimes. Do I have any company in this department?

[rcoreyus]

There must be other things you can do for him when you don't want extended intercourse. Also maybe quick is fun for him. BTW - what do you do to finish him so quickly during intercourse? If its something he likes, then maybe everyone is happy

[atskitty2]

I would talk to him about it. You say he will be okay with it, so communication would be easy and give you some assurance that he is happy and probably eliminate that feeling of selfishness.

[shoshannah]

Thanks, I think I will talk to him. Not sure if it will make me feel any less selfish, but it won't hurt.

rcoreyus, I guess there's always oral, but we both usually prefer the connection we get from intercourse. As for finishing him, it's nothing magic, just a combination of things I know he likes and that he can't handle--mainly I just rock my hips more while squeezing my vaginal muscles and whispering dirty into his ear. He definitely likes it; it's just me who feels that I'm short-changing him time-wise, since the longer sex goes on, the more relaxed he usually is afterwards.

[rcoreyus]

You could spend some time doing other nice things for him first, then finish with intercourse. Its quite possible though that he is enjoying it - not all sex needs to be long an slow (though that is great), quick and intense can be wonderful too.

[shoshannah]

That's a good point about doing other things first. Thanks!

[jns]

He may be more relaxed after longer sex because he has had a longer workout. If intercourse for a longer time is uncomfortable, there are ways for him to get his workout without having intercourse. He could thrust into your lubed hands or between your (maybe lubed) breasts squeezed together. Alternatively, he could thrust between your (maybe lubed) upper thighs while spooning. I'm sure there are other variations that could work.