[ms.toni]

no

If this woman is that hung up on penis size then there will never be one "big" enough to satisfy her. Cut your losses now and move on to someone who will appreciate you as a person.

[heatherh]

Thanks

Thanks for all of the input and I am informed that the length according to her had nothing to do with it it was girth and that she is glad to have experienced bigger but it does not necessarily make it better just more filling feeling

[Fallen1]

Thanks for all of the input and I am informed that the length according to her had nothing to do with it it was girth and that she is glad to have experienced bigger but it does not necessarily make it better just more filling feeling

I take it by your recent posts that you have decided to try and work things out?

If so, I hope things work out for you.

[heatherh]

We are talking but there are some issues that we both have. I now have a lack of trust and have told her that. She acknowledges that it was wrong but she needed more attention because I was gone a lot and this just kind of happened. I told her she should have talked with me about it and that I would much rather she go buy a toy or use her hand to satisfy herself if she needed it that bad when I was gone. I know that was probably not the right thing to say but she did agree.

[metboogie]

My wife of 13 years just left me and I am very confuse. I am a salesman who is gone a lot and thought that things seemed to be changing. Let me go back, when we first met and became intimate she actually measured my penis because she said it was big. I am 8" with girth about 3.25". I was recently gone on a trip for work and got home early and found her in bed with another man. when she explained why she said it was do to me not being around very much and she had needs and that this man she met was caring, good in bed and had a bigger penis. She measure him also and told me that he is 9.5" and bigger around than the center of a toilet paper role. So tell me women, is penis size really that important to you?

I think it was less about your size and more about the other relationship issues. When people are hurt they can sometimes be vindictive...and it seems she wanted to hit you where it would hurt. Who knows how big he really is - you're taking the word of your soon to be ex-wife who was cheating on you...not the person I would call honest.

Move on...and make sure the woman in your next relationship has LOTS of friends and hobbies to keep her active while you are away.

[darkone]

Well another guys input on this is that if the relationship was strong it wouldn't have happened at all. Generally people don't cheat on there spouses (especially in their own home).

It all comes down to communication. Unfortunetly now you will have those trust issues and rightfully so. But I doubt loneliness was the only issue here. If she was lonely she could have picked up the phone and called you maybe had a little phone sex or whatever. Like you said before she could have played with herself. The option she took was too extreme for simple loneliness.

She obviously has a beef with you and said and did things to either get back at you or get your attention (yeah I know bad way to get someones attention).

I know if my wife of 13 yrs cheated on me and I never cheated, and was faithful. I would just end the marriage just because of that trust. To me that's the biggest and most important piece of marriage. You cannot love someone the way you want if you cannot trust them.

This is just my .02. But overall now your happiness is what is important now. If your not happy and trust is an issue get out and find someone that will make you happy.

But to agree with most the women I doubt that your wife threw away your marriage for a bit extra size.

-D1-

[heatherh]

We talked a lot and I do not want to throw things away with her, so if it is not Penis size what is it? I tend to disagree because I found a dildo of hers that is more than unusally large

[sourpuss]

It's not about size.
From your other posts, in other threads (that you deleted, btw) she seems to have serious issues. She is manipulative, selfish and obviously does not have respect for you. She cheated on you in your home and then blamed it on something you have no control over. There is something seriously wrong with this picture.
It's sad that you are failing to see this. You deserve better. Start over and hopefully you can find someone who appreciates you as much as you appreciate them.

[SorridLives]

We talked a lot and I do not want to throw things away with her, so if it is not Penis size what is it? I tend to disagree because I found a dildo of hers that is more than unusally large

It could be a thousand things. Maybe it doesn't even have anything to do with you. Maybe it is her problem. She is the only one that really knows.

[Franny&Zooey]

It's not about size.
There is something seriously wrong with this picture.
It's sad that you are failing to see this. You deserve better. Start over and hopefully you can find someone who appreciates you as much as you appreciate them.

I completely agree. Whatever her reasons, excuses, or motives were, they are not at all justified. She took an extreme measure, that I think is unforgivable. I can't tell you I understand what it would be like to let go of a thirteen year marriage, but I think that is what you should do. If it happened once, it'll happen again, and who's to say this isn't the first time? Think about what she's doing the next time you're away, if you can forget about it, then stay. I, for one, cannot regain trust in someone after they've lost it. And she definitely lost it (and respect too).