[wicked-humour]

hi everyone, I don't know if this has been asked before and im sorry if it has,

we have been together for 31 years and have had a great sexlife from the start, we have children but still continued to have an active time in the bedroom.
we have tried most things and know what each other likes( I think!) but over the past couple of years his libido has decreased. he can quite happily go 2 weeks without even attempting to touch me, if I touch him im a sex maniac (his words)
when I do manage to get his attention the sex is amazing but he finds it difficult to orgasm, often tiring himself out or losing his erection. we have discussed this plenty of times and have tried to deal with the problem.
I understand that age may be a factor, but he is fit and healthy, we still cuddle and kiss and show affection to each other,

hope someone can help

thanks

[JonDoe]

Make an appointment and go with him to get tested for low testosterone. As a man ages, he requires more direct stimulation to achieve and maintain an erection. Both of you should be doing Kegels. Viagra may help too.

If I get out of breath and/or overheated, then I will have a difficult time achieving orgasm. When this happens, I like to switch positions with my wife and let her be on top or provide oral and/or manual stimulation, which unfortunately she has been very reluctant to do.

Whatever you do, don't confuse his difficulty in achieving orgasm or maintaining an erection as him not loving you or finding you attractive.

[jns]

It sounds like he has erectile dysfunction. Another possibility is that he has another form of release such as porn and masturbation. Is he willing to go to a doctor and get diagnosed?

[rcoreyus]

There is a huge difference between "need" and desire. I'm 50. I can go weeks without sex, but that doesn't mean that I want to. I do sometimes have erectile difficulties or difficulty having an orgasm (age sucks), but that doesn't keep me from wanting to be intimate with my wife any chance I get.