[secret0524]

I have known my boyfriend of 5 weeks for a year and I just turned 20 and he's 19. We've been very intimate in such a short time.

The first two weeks I really had a hard time dealing with his sexual desires with him going against my resistance to grope my breasts and finger me because I grew up with strict parents. But after a while the physical relationship has grown on me in some way and has allowed us to develop sense of closeness.

Starting 3rd to 4th week, he always had me naked every time I am in his room spending the night with him and progressively tried to get me comfortable seeing his penis because he knows that I freak out. But it's hard for me to be comfortable unless I see things in a more biological perspective (we're both bio majors in college).

Now that it's fifth week, he seems to really push towards that side. He has shown me lot of videos online that relate to the idea of sex (red light district, Hentai, human anatomy, animal mating rituals, etc). He also asserted that sex at our age really is no big deal and that with the right protection it is fine. I think he is hinting at me to give it a try but I am not sure whether he will act upon it. I felt a bit more comfortable about it than before but then I still don't feel completely ready. How can I make sure that he gets the hint so that he wont push me into it as he did with other things?

[Patti-here]

Just tell him you're not ready for full sex yet, and when you are ready and feel comfortable enough for it you'll let him know. Please never let anyone take advantage of you.

[rcoreyus]

You need to make your boundaries clear. Has he been doing things you don't want, or just convincing you to do them?

Don't have sex with him before you are ready. By the same token, if you are happy to spend a lot of time naked with him, but not have sex, you need to make that clear to him. Make sure he understands what is and isn't OK.

[Motorguy]

I have known my boyfriend of 5 weeks for a year and I just turned 20 and he's 19. We've been very intimate in such a short time.

The first two weeks I really had a hard time dealing with his sexual desires with him going against my resistance to grope my breasts and finger me because I grew up with strict parents. But after a while the physical relationship has grown on me in some way and has allowed us to develop sense of closeness.

Starting 3rd to 4th week, he always had me naked every time I am in his room spending the night with him and progressively tried to get me comfortable seeing his penis because he knows that I freak out. But it's hard for me to be comfortable unless I see things in a more biological perspective (we're both bio majors in college).

Now that it's fifth week, he seems to really push towards that side. He has shown me lot of videos online that relate to the idea of sex (red light district, Hentai, human anatomy, animal mating rituals, etc). He also asserted that sex at our age really is no big deal and that with the right protection it is fine. I think he is hinting at me to give it a try but I am not sure whether he will act upon it. I felt a bit more comfortable about it than before but then I still don't feel completely ready. How can I make sure that he gets the hint so that he wont push me into it as he did with other things?

Well Secret it's your body tell him to back that train up to the station and let him know. You want to go slow and at your own pace and if he has a problem with that then tell him there's the door don't let it hit you where the good lord slit you. Only you can say what happens with your body no one else can period. If you think he's pushing you to have sex really hard then he's not into you but only putting a notch on his belt that he's had sex with you. There are more nicer guys out there who will respect you more then this guy.

[jen1447]

How can I make sure that he gets the hint so that he wont push me into it as he did with other things?

You don't want him to get any hints, you want to tell him explicitly. That way there's no misunderstanding on either side. Say "BF, I'm not ready for sexual intercourse at this time, or any other serious sexual activity besides kissing. You'll be the first to know when I'm ready, but in the meantime, there's no point in you trying to make this happen because it's not going to."