[redrose2]

Hi guys, so, me and my partner have literally just moved in together a week ago today, we have been together a year and have a very healthy sex life, however, he smokes cannabis and coincidently he decided last Sunday to come off it as his mood swings were getting out of hand, moody, irritable etc, although he has always remained very affectionate. But since giving up the C he hasn't done anything, barely looked at me, no cuddles or even put a hand on my shoulder, certainly no sex!! No nothing, zilch. We spoke on Thursday about general sex stuff and I told him I had quite the high sex drive and he said he did too, which we both knew about each other, that night, went bed together and he laid on his back, basically wanted to shut me up by telling me to get on top, but the way he put it across was not as if he wanted it, it was a chore and he wasn't really interested so I didn't do it. This is all making me feel insecure and unwanted, I have spoke to others that have given up before and no one said they experienced this, im at a loss, especially since we have only moved in together this week!

[effy2014]

The issue is him, not you. He has not fallen out of love that quickly.

Given what you have written, I doubt that his mood swings were related that much (if at all) to his use or coming off of cannabis. Sex starts with the mind and if something is bothering him, there is nothing you can do. Get to the reason behind the mood swings (work issues, family, old relationships) and you and your boyfriend will solve the problem.

[redrose2]

Thanks effy, tried discussing it tonight, major bust up and I think he's moving out already, he told me I was the problem as it was always him that initiated everything, which is bull, said I should take control. I'm always in control....of everything! The kids, him, housework, university. Never mind, thanks for getting back to me

[jns]

It sounds like this has been coming for some time and he is using the coming off of cannabis as an excuse. Are they his kids too? Is it possible that he is having an affair?

[redrose2]

I really don't know, I'm just so confused. Sorry I meant to say child not kids lol, only have one, no my little one isn't his but he's great with him. I doubt he's having an affair as he doesn't go anywhere, out a couple of times a month with his mates then college twice a week. Apart from that I don't think he would. He goes around telling his friends and family how much he loves me as they are always telling me.