[CathyL]

Hey! I am around forty and my husband rarely has sex with me anymore. Alternatively, I masturbate. I've masturbated just fine since I was about 15 but for the past two weeks I have been having trouble orgasming. In the past two weeks I have reached orgasm one time and it took me around 40 minutes! I do have a vibrator, which I use every time I masturbate. Oh and I pleasure myself on a daily basis. Why is this happening? Please help me!!! Thanks in advance!
-Cathy

[305]

Hi there...well I'm in my early 30's and I've also enjoyed pleasuring my self from an early age...but I would say how's the mood or the setting when your about to take on your voyage? (: are you completely relaxed and knowing that you will not be interrupted for the next hr or so...? cuz at times when I know that I don't have the time I get slightly stressed and then it takes longer to reach that feeling (: have you also tried other ways to please yourself (:

[jen1447]

Are you masturbating your clit specifically, and if so, it is very sensitive or has it become sensitive? It's also possible if you've really been going at it heavily with a toy that has some gusto that you're 'numbing' your clit to some extent. Maybe try giving your clit a break and giving your g-spot some attention. You probably already know this but it's a very different type of orgasm and they can be extremely intense. In my experience they require more work tho, but if you have time, it's time well spent.

I don't think you're overdoing it. I masturbate daily too and have never had desensitization issues. But all women are different and it could be your special places need a little break.

Could be routine or complacency too ....in which case maybe a little anal play or some extra naughtiness (do it somewhere like the kitchen, or even better outside at night) might spice things up. Good luck and have fun troubleshooting the problem!

[Motorguy]

Hey! I am around forty and my husband rarely has sex with me anymore. Alternatively, I masturbate. I've masturbated just fine since I was about 15 but for the past two weeks I have been having trouble orgasming. In the past two weeks I have reached orgasm one time and it took me around 40 minutes! I do have a vibrator, which I use every time I masturbate. Oh and I pleasure myself on a daily basis. Why is this happening? Please help me!!! Thanks in advance! -Cathy

Well I agree with Jenn maybe doing your fun time in another room mix things up you are in a rut with your masturbation time. Maybe out side kind of risky outside naked if you can get away with that and relaxing and enjoy yourself probably will help you have your big 0 sooner then later. I may sub just a vibrator called the pocket rocket this puts out a awesome buzz and my wife swears by it and enjoys a lot more over a long vibrator or dildo. So good luck with your happy time in the near future Cathy.