[natashakb]

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I really want to squirt for my boyfriend since he continuously says he wants me to squirt when dirty talking.
Here's my problem though.
He will stimulate my clitoris amazingly well whether it's with his fingers or tongue, but after awhile of constant stimulation it feels too good that it becomes painful in a feel-good kind of way.
I don't know what I'm supposed to do. He tells me to relax but it "hurts" because it feels TOO good. I tried explaining this to him but he doesn't quite understand it (he's a guy of course he doesn't understand what that feels like).
Is this problem preventing me from squirting or is there something else I can do to squirt for him?
I really want to do it. My wetness isn't a problem either, he jokes about how wet I get after we haven't had sex for awhile and I orgasm pretty easily and even during masturbation have yet to make myself squirt.
I'm at a loss here.
Additionally, I understand the feeling right before it happens is a "I feel like I'm going to pee" sensation and I can get to that point just fine, even after stopping masturbation I continue to have that "pee" feeling but I give up because it doesn't feel good after I top out at my orgasm and again if it were him doing it, it would begin to hurt from feeling too good and I start to squirm away from it because I literally can't handle it.

[jns]

Your bf is overstimulating you which is why you feel pain instead of pleasure. He needs to take a break from stimulating the clitoris every once in a while and go stimulate other erogenous zones such as the breasts, the earlobes, the inner thighs and/or the area near the anus. The reason he doesn't understand that he is causing you pain is because he is oblivious to what brings a woman pleasure. That type of ignorance often goes hand in hand with youth, but there are older men who are also oblivious. He probably should be stimulating you through your clitoral hood anyway. It protects the clitoris from direct contact. Direct contact on the clitoris can be felt as pain by some. An equivalence in many guys would to be to grab the penis roughly as the guy is orgasming. The penis becomes very sensitive at that time for many and excessive force or rubbing can be painful, especially without lubricant.

I have not really attempted to get a girl to squirt, but the consensus is that there is a slightly rough area in the forward part of the vagina an inch or two from the opening. By forward I mean in a direction away from the anus. Stimulating that spot by finger or by penis may lead to squirting. By finger, the partner uses a come here curling motion with their finger. A lot of lube should be used so as to cause discomfort. Also, it is best it the girl pees before the attempt.

[jen1447]

He's working the wrong place. Clit squirting is possible but only with women who are experienced at it and know what makes them go and can transition effectively. Basically what he's doing is like trying to scratch an itch a few inches away from where the itch is.

Allow me a bit of contempt here - why do guys always have to act like 'the man?' This is the kind of thing that happens when you have a guy who doesn't know what he's doing, working with a girl who doesn't know that he doesn't know what he's doing, and all that really goes on is he fires his shotgun at the wall hoping to hit something.

Okay, here's what you should do:

1. Send him home for now.
2. Look up 'g-spot' on the Wiki.
3. Start masturbating so that you know where it is and what makes you squirt, if anything.
4. (Some women simply don't squirt. If after knowing the details and practicing you still don't squirt, shrug your shoulders and move on.)
5. When you've figured it out, bring him back, instruct him how it's done, and get him to practice so he actually knows what the **** he's doing.
6. Squirt away all day long if that's your thing.

Have fun hon, and try not to think of guys as being the answer men automatically.

[Motorguy]

Now Jenn that putting very bluntly and to the point perfect. Well some of us men know where that magic button is and enjoy pushing it lol.

[Something_Awesome]

You should play hump your guy to show him what will or may hit your g-spot. After a while you may discover that the play humping is pleasurable, and it then may open a back door to other forms of sex

[Elena_EvilEye]

Squirting does not automatically mean pleasure. I don't always squirt but I still enjoy sex with my husband because he is a fantastic lover who wants to give me a good time. He knows my magic spot and he knows what I like and I almost always orgasm when we make love. natashakb so long as you enjoy sex it should not matter whether you squirt or not (some can some don't). But I will say try different positions and see whether that pushes your button.

[Motorguy]

Squirting does not automatically mean pleasure. I don't always squirt but I still enjoy sex with my husband because he is a fantastic lover who wants to give me a good time. He knows my magic spot and he knows what I like and I almost always orgasm when we make love. natashakb so long as you enjoy sex it should not matter whether you squirt or not (some can some don't). But I will say try different positions and see whether that pushes your button.

Very well said Elena my wife can squirt but she been doing for a while now. Like you say not all women can squirt they probably could. With some work but some women squirt easier then others.

[Baboy]

I really want to squirt for my boyfriend since he continuously says he wants me to squirt when dirty talking.

If all else fails, blast him in the face with a water pistol while talking dirty. He might lay off begging you to squirt after that.

[CoolBreeze]

Please realize that you have to be relaxed and be in control of your own orgasm to achieve what ever you want. There shouldn't be any compulsion, even from your own self towards how you should perform. As Elena mentioned squirting doesn't always equate with pleasure. However, if you achieve both internal and external orgasms within a given time frame, you are bound to hit new peaks of orgasm which in most cases triggers squirting. It's also a good sign that your diet is balanced and that you are keeping your self properly hydrated. No one has the right to impose any particular sexual behavior upon you. If your boy friend wants to help, he should let you experience your own sexuality. Go with the flow. Squirting in itself is not the goal but reaching good quality orgasms should be the goal. Every thing else will follow spontaneously. Happy experimenting!!!

[Motorguy]

Well Coolbreeze my wife will orgasm and then squirt around the same time she never squirts and not orgasm as well. But there probably women who can't do both as well.