[her313]

I've been with my boyfriend on and off for almost two years, when we first started dating I enjoyed pleasing him and the sex. It was always easy for him to get me aroused and him the same, but lately I haven't been feeling it. I'm still attracted to him and still love him but for some reason it's been harder to get aroused by him. I no longer enjoy giving him oral, its become more of a "chore" then something I enjoy doing. I was hoping it was just the stress and the fighting and it would change back, but no I'm still having the same problem.

[Motorguy]

Well Her313 what has change in your life to have these issue now after two years. Is this from the on and off relationship you have with him and you tired of it has he been unfaithful to you while you was split up seeing other girls. Do you want to take a break from him. To even know what you feeling you need to discuss why has your relationship been on and off there must be a reason. So I thinking you had it with this soap opera of a relationship and want to end it.You not enjoying having oral with him it's a chore for you so sounds sex is the sane way then. Well only thing I say it's a decision you have to make to stay with him or break it off for good.Then find a new guy to enjoy a new relationship with. But you need to discuss this with boy friend and tell him why get his reaction he may agree you not doing it for him anymore either. But it's not fair to him and yourself if you do not at least discuss your issue you have with him.

[her313]

No he hasn't been unfaithful, just so many arguments in the past years about pointless stuff. Thank you I'll try to find out how to talk about it. I want to continue the relationship, I just haven't been wanting to have sex. is that weird ?

[DreamP346]

just so many arguments in the past years about pointless stuff.

That pretty much sums it all. When you start a relationship, hormones kick in, you are feeling euphoric and all this stuff overshadows the negative stuff. After about a year, the high from the new relationship has worn off and now the problems are starting to really effect your sex life. Work on the relationship and the sex desire will come back.

BTW, you haven't started using birth control have you?

[owel1reuel]

Tell him what you feel in a nice way. Tell him you want to feel the way you feel when you first had sex. The on and off decomposts the connection, emotion, feelings. You are not probably relax or you don't have that full willingness anymore.