[Etcere]

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Gonna try and make this as short and sweet as possible.

I'm a 17 year old girl, going into my senior year of high school. I've never been sexually active, and I haven't been comfortable with my sexuality until this year. I'm probably going to become sexually active relatively soon, within the next few years.

My problem is this: I don't know how to get myself off, and I don't want to enter my sex life without even knowing what I like. I've never had an orgasm, never even come close. When I started actually masturbating a few months ago, I was doing it mainly for the purpose of reaching orgasm. I know that this is a common problem; girls get too fixated on orgasm, then can't reach it because they're stressing. However, I'm just not able to get past it mentally. I know what spots feel good, what to do, how to tease myself, all of that fun stuff, but the mental part isn't there. Frankly, I think the problem is that I just have my fingers to work with (not even a detachable showerhead). Even if I'm super horny, I always get underwhelmed at just having my fingers to stimulate myself with. Even when I touch all the right spots, I'll end up plateauing and going at it for 30 minutes and then just giving up because I'm tired.

I've come to the conclusion that I need a sex toy. It'll help me take my mind off the underwhelming feeling I get from using my fingers, and I know it'll help me focus on the sensation without getting tired. My problem, obviously, as a 17 year old girl who's living with her parents, is acquiring it. I can get an amazon card and order it from there without my parents knowing, but it's probable that they'll get the delivery before I do (my dad opens my mail, so he'd be the one to see it; not a comfortable idea). The alternative option is to ask my mom to buy it for me. Fortunately, she's really cool about sexuality. I could just walk on up to her and ask for one, and she'd probably get it for me. The problem is, I don't really know if I want that hanging over our relationship. I'm not sure how it would affect us, seeing as how I'm close to my mom.

So, guys, I need tips. If you have any masturbation tips that you think could help me, fire away, but just know that I'm not going to be able to shut off my fixation on orgasm on my own. It's just not going to happen when all I have are my fingers. My main question, here, is how I can get the sex toy, and how it'll affect my mom and I's relationship if I go ahead and ask her for it.

Thank you very much!

[Motorguy]

Gonna try and make this as short and sweet as possible.

I'm a 17 year old girl, going into my senior year of high school. I've never been sexually active, and I haven't been comfortable with my sexuality until this year. I'm probably going to become sexually active relatively soon, within the next few years.

My problem is this: I don't know how to get myself off, and I don't want to enter my sex life without even knowing what I like. I've never had an orgasm, never even come close. When I started actually masturbating a few months ago, I was doing it mainly for the purpose of reaching orgasm. I know that this is a common problem; girls get too fixated on orgasm, then can't reach it because they're stressing. However, I'm just not able to get past it mentally. I know what spots feel good, what to do, how to tease myself, all of that fun stuff, but the mental part isn't there. Frankly, I think the problem is that I just have my fingers to work with (not even a detachable showerhead). Even if I'm super horny, I always get underwhelmed at just having my fingers to stimulate myself with. Even when I touch all the right spots, I'll end up plateauing and going at it for 30 minutes and then just giving up because I'm tired.

I've come to the conclusion that I need a sex toy. It'll help me take my mind off the underwhelming feeling I get from using my fingers, and I know it'll help me focus on the sensation without getting tired. My problem, obviously, as a 17 year old girl who's living with her parents, is acquiring it. I can get an amazon card and order it from there without my parents knowing, but it's probable that they'll get the delivery before I do (my dad opens my mail, so he'd be the one to see it; not a comfortable idea). The alternative option is to ask my mom to buy it for me. Fortunately, she's really cool about sexuality. I could just walk on up to her and ask for one, and she'd probably get it for me. The problem is, I don't really know if I want that hanging over our relationship. I'm not sure how it would affect us, seeing as how I'm close to my mom.

So, guys, I need tips. If you have any masturbation tips that you think could help me, fire away, but just know that I'm not going to be able to shut off my fixation on orgasm on my own. It's just not going to happen when all I have are my fingers. My main question, here, is how I can get the sex toy, and how it'll affect my mom and I's relationship if I go ahead and ask her for it.

Thank you very much!

Well Etcere I am a dad of 4 daughters 26,25,21,16 as you said your moms pretty cool about sexuality along with being open minded. I will tell you when my daughters was able to talk with there mom at 13 or 14 about sex before they was old enough to buy there own sex toys.They talk with with there mother about sex and toy and so on. So I say you ask your mom to purchase one for you. I only knew that my wife got sex toys for are daughters because she told me about it all as I got a chuckle about it all. I was good with it because I rather they do this then with some boy having unsafe sex catching a STD or getting pregnant. I feel if you are up front and honest with your mom it can be a mom and daughter secret leave dad out of the conversation.I know it could be maybe a embarrassing thing to discuss but believe me your mom probably went through the some problem when she was your age.So good luck as I hope it all works out for you in the long run.

[Romy]

Well two items you could buy that I use and that no one would blink twice at if they saw them are an electric toothbrush....yes I know at first it sounds like it wouldn't work but I have many many many amazing orgasms using one and then there's the hitachi magic wand which is a massager but can definitely be used to masturbate. The toothbrush worked for me first time and every singe time. When I bought the wand and tried it, nothing happened and I was very frustrated but with some time it all came together and I love using it.

I've never had strong orgasms using just my fingers. If you have access to a hand held shower head, unscrew the top and use the steady stream against your clitoris.

From a very very early age I clearly recall masturbating. I didn't set out to do it I would just wake up (always slept on my stomach) with such a beautiful feeling and by staying on my stomach and squeezing my legs together I was able to make that feeling last for hours.

Good luck. I'm sure you'll get some great advice on this forum that is going to help you.

[Nada noor]

Sometimes people say that masturbating 3 times a day is a lot haha but it depends on the person. I mean, women have needs too! And if you're saving yourself for the right person, then at least you're not at risk of STDs! It's a safe way to go until you're ready to have sex, it's All personal choice!