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A lot of these replies boil down to COMMUNICATION. The question is, how do you each get the other to communicate. First of all, honesty, non-judgmental openness. You can not got to your wife and say, "why are you watching porn but not having sex with me". What you can do is talk her on a no kids holiday where she can have a massage and get relaxed and ask her what you can do to make things good for her sexually. It's not about you, it's about her. You need to get her to understand that what ever she says, you won't be offended and that you won't judge her. She needs to know that your primary concern is making HER happy. Tell her that as a woman, she knows best what she likes and wants and that you want to learn what those thinks are. Ask her to teach you how to make sex wonderful for HER. Once she understands that you honestly want to make things better for her and that you won't judge her, she'll start to open up. LISTEN, don't talk. I know you'll want to talk but listen and ask open questions (ones that can't be open yes or no).
Also, as has been pointed out above, night time may not be her best time. Start making dinner and washing the dishes, etc.. Make her day easier. Let her know that her well being is important to you.Comment
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offer to hold your **** inside her as she masturbates to porn, itl likely end in sex. from a girls perspective, a clit orgasm feels twice as good with something in you. she probably just likes porn and masturbating so in that case, help her with it instead of replacing it. you help her she will help you likely. or if you dont want to do that, make a **** mould dildo and let her use it for her masturbation sessions. Getting her to quit masturbating is probably a problem. so go with the flow.
perhaps talk to her more business like about it, put it out there IF, IF she masturbates you could make it more intense for her (NOT via sex), see how she reacts.
she seems very defensive though but perhaps thats due to your approach, seem interested in her private play, maybe that you deep down find it hot when a woman does it, break her out her shell.Comment
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That is sad for both of you. Has he considered intracavernosal shots such as Edex? There are also others even more effective if you google "Tri-mix" and such. No fun giving yourself a shot there, but it's not as bad as you think it would be, and the results can be amazing. Definitely good for more than just 8-10 pumps!Bubba, my HB has major PE problem, 3 pumps done .maybe bout 8-10 pumps with pills ( Viagra/ cialis etc). Things become way worse after his prostate surgery .I only enjoy piv but all these years (bout 14 years) ,no piv get me to O, so I give up & rather reach my destination myself, just plain clit O. .
I've had more extensive experience with these than I care to admit, but they don't leave you with the unpleasant side-effects some men get from Viagra and Cialis.Comment
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