[Meadowlark Maker]

A brief history about what's going on in my environment: My first sexual experience, we both came at the same time and there was no pain. I was 17. We had sex a few more times and vaginal orgasm was no problem, I barely needed clitoral stimulation. I had a violent sexual encounter that left a lot of scar tissue inside a few years later and I stopped having sex so I could heal. I found someone I am incredibly attracted to last fall and to my surprise, the first time he touched me, he made me come by gently inserting one to two fingers and not really doing much. The whole day was relaxing and fun. But it only happened that first time. We've been exploring each other sexually for almost a year now and the only way I orgasm is by clitoral stimulation and sometimes just touching around the vagina causes pain and burning. I think this has something to do with the scar tissue around the opening of my vagina and psychological trauma. I wish I knew more about what may be going on with me. Does anyone have some insight? The objective here is that I want to have easy, relaxing vaginal orgasms like I used to. I don't really like a lot of clitoral stimulation but it's the only way I can orgasm these days.

[LilBells]

How long ago was your last pelvic exam? I can't help but think that a professional opinion is what you need due to the possible scar tissue.

[Meadowlark Maker]

Oh, I had a pelvic exam a few months after we started exploring each other (The exam was Jan 2014) and got on birth control. She told me that I was having problems because of psychological trauma and gave me the phone number to a professional counselor but I haven't had the money to go see them yet. She didn't explain what I could do physically for myself, which is why I'm going to the forums to see what other women are doing.

[jns]

I wonder if you are allergic to something on his hands, such as a cream. You could ask him. It could be something like a specific type of soap. Another way would be for him to put something over his finger or fingers to see if you no longer get the burning. Use lube. A condom over a finger might do.