[AmeliEva]

Hi I'm 22 years old and I come to this forum because I'm very nervous and I really really need some advices.I'm dating my bf for 3 weeks(never dated a guy before,never even been kissed before) and I want to give myself to him soon because that's what I feel.I don't think it's too early I waited to do this step for a while to have sexual intercourse but I just hadn't find the right man...well,until now.The problem is I want to do it but I'm so anxious and tensed that only the thought of doing it increases my heart rate.I'm kinda scared that it will hurt,I'm affraid how my body will react when his penis will enter me(I read that it seems like a shock).I honestly don't know what to think anymore many people say that first time is the worst and it just gives me goosebumps.It was very akward for me at the beginning of our relationship to be touched my a man I was shy and reserved.And now this BIG thing involves much more than touching,requires having him so close to my body,he didn't evan saw me completely naked yet.So,I really want to have sex with him but I just have to don't let this fear to get my body anymore.I really need some advices to deal with this problem,if it isn't too much to ask.

[Baboy]

AmilEva,


First up, welcome to the forum.

You don't say how old is your bf, or his experience, not that that info is key.

As a guy, let me say you should not now feel you have to rush to have sexual intercourse, having waited to age 22. Take it a bit slow. I would say spend some time just touching, fingering, etc.

When the time comes, it will be better for you both if you are fully aroused and wet. It should be an enjoyable experience and it will be if you both relax and take it slow. There's no law that says it has to hurt or that the first time has to be some sort of ordeal.

At age 22, with no experience of a bf before, and only 3 weeks in, please do not put pressure on yourself to "do the deed" because you see it as some kind of threshold that now must be crossed. Slow down and enjoy.
I am sure some of the women on this forum will have a bit of thoughtful advice from a woman's perspective.

[Magnetism]

Hi

Are you and your boyfriend exclusive? Did he initiate sex or are you just thinking about it? I agree that you don't have to rush it, unless you absolutely think it's right to di it. Everyone is different. I think taking your time to kiss, caress, and get yourself wet/aroused will help lessen any pain. I don't know if you can make yourself orgasm already. That helps decrease pain.