[Kay01]

So let me start by saying that I am NOT one of those girls that goes through a boyfriend's stuff. We've been dating 3 years and this is the second time and it wasn't intentional. My boyfriend lives with me and my roommate. He has his own room that he sleeps in when he has to be up for work, otherwise he sleeps with me. Yesterday I noticed my Tablet was dead so I went into his room to borrow his. When I picked it up and clicked the screen I noticed porn pulled up on the screen. I laughed it off because I even use porn to get off from time to time. However, idk what posessed me to do it, but I made the mistake of looking at his history. Big mistake! Every day it's porn. Not only that but I saw a Google search for my roommate and nude pics as well as a friend of my Rome mate. Wtf? I freaked out and spent the better part of the night crying. He has no clue what is wrong because I haven't admitted that I looked at his tablet and saw it. I haven't said 5 words to him since yesterday and he knows I'm upset about something because I won't even look at him. I feel so worthless and unattractive now. I don't know how to handle this. He had always been a great and loving boyfriend. Am I overreacting?

[Something_Awesome]

He searched for nude pics of your roomate? He probably isn't into having sex with your roomate as much as he's into the taboo/naughtiness feeling of finding nude pics of girls he knows online.

I guess try to imagine watching porn, and now imagine watching someone you know do porn! Again, I could be wrong here as I never thought to google search any of my GF's friends, but thinking about it, I bet he was just into the potential naughtiness behind it. I have no idea why he'd think that he'd find nude pics of your roomate/friends though.

I will admit that my friend showed me a sex tape of his uncle having sex with his fiance. I was just a kid and did not think either of them were good looking, but the fact that I knew them made it feel really naughty lol. As for the friend, well, it was his uncle and I did not question his comfort in watching his uncle and future aunt-in-law have sex. It's weird though when I think about it. He was actually excited to tell me he found the video though. Again, could be the naughty component at work here!

[Kay01]

Thanks for your response! I see what you're saying and I also have no clue why he searched for it but it really freaked me out. I mean we live with this person and she's been my friend since we were 6. It just makes me feel like I'm not good enough, ya know.

[Something_Awesome]

I honestly think he just had a "dur" moment and searched it. He was just searching something that would have helped him get off (because it was taboo). I wouldn't be surprised that if he found something that he would actually spill the cheese to you about what he found.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Before you found this did you feel worthless? Did you feel that you couldn't trust him, or your friend who is a room mate? Did you feel that you two don't have enough intimate moments?

If not, then you are letting a weak moment of emotions get to you.

I'd actually though stop sleeping in separate rooms, it may be for work but it allows him to google or "whatever" without you.. And, I'd bring it into the bedroom and let him do it in front of you as well, so that he knows it's "ok" and you are secure but I'd also put my boundries there, ie) not daily, weekly even, you are the woman and all woman, let him hear you roar.

[Motorguy]

So let me start by saying that I am NOT one of those girls that goes through a boyfriend's stuff. We've been dating 3 years and this is the second time and it wasn't intentional. My boyfriend lives with me and my roommate. He has his own room that he sleeps in when he has to be up for work, otherwise he sleeps with me. Yesterday I noticed my Tablet was dead so I went into his room to borrow his. When I picked it up and clicked the screen I noticed porn pulled up on the screen. I laughed it off because I even use porn to get off from time to time. However, idk what posessed me to do it, but I made the mistake of looking at his history. Big mistake! Every day it's porn. Not only that but I saw a Google search for my roommate and nude pics as well as a friend of my Rome mate. Wtf? I freaked out and spent the better part of the night crying. He has no clue what is wrong because I haven't admitted that I looked at his tablet and saw it. I haven't said 5 words to him since yesterday and he knows I'm upset about something because I won't even look at him. I feel so worthless and unattractive now. I don't know how to handle this. He had always been a great and loving boyfriend. Am I overreacting?

Well Kay, I can understand you being upset but you really need to ask the boy friend WTF is up with him searching for nude pics of your roommate on the internet. You ignoring him and giving him the cold shoulder all this is doing is making him think what is wrong be up front and be honest. On what you found and work it out or make him leave the place that all three of you are living in right now. Then you can simple break up with him them because he will never stop searching for porn on the internet. The first thing about a relationship is have good communication with your spouse if you don't have that then it's done in my eyes. So good luck I hope you get the answer you need from boy friend.

[effy2014]

You did not say, but I am assuming that you are your BF are late teens/early 20s. If not, I will revise my remarks.

Boys like to see girls naked. Any girl. Every girl . . . Hot, not Hot, thin, big chested, etc. It has nothing to do with the girl he is seeing (in this case, you) and it most likely has nothing to do with any feelings for the girl he wants to see naked (in this case, your roommate). He has no control over the fantasies that his raging hormones create. He does, however, have complete control over whether he acts on them.

Don't convict him of preferring your roommate over you or even liking her (in the relationship sense). He is just fantasizing. I would talk to him about it in an understanding way . . . making sure that there is nothing to it but also recognizing that boys fantasize. Personally, I would stop the snooping until he has given you any objective sign of cheating and, even then, a conversation is more appropriate. Yes, I know, you are not a snooper . . . yadda yadda . . . but you couldn't help yourself from looking at the internet history . . . .