[LilahX]

We're in a 12 yr r/ship and have just hit our 60s and our sex life is awesome. Why?

Because we're open and honest and non-judgemental with each other. We can (and do) talk about what we like/want in sex, what we like about our sex life and each other.

We have no jealousies - we are swingers and having extra people to share sexual adventures with only increases our own intimacy and love. We openly admire other people, fantasise about them together or about imaginery people.

We work at keeping the intimacy alive - and that doesn't necessarily mean sex. We hold hands, we talk, we cuddle, we remind ourselves and each other that we're not only in love but love each other for who we are, the good and the bad.

The best thing for keepiing the spice alive - talk to each other.

The best way to kill the romance - complacency.

Good luck

[Motorguy]

Well LilahX all very well said. I been with my wife 29 years but married 27 years. But you are so right communication is the first thing in a long lasting marriage or relationship as well.