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  • sawshark
    Junior Member
    • Oct 2014
    • 6

    Serious Problem

    Hello everyone, i am male and i want to share my story and find solution because i love my girlfriend very much and she loves me too so we don't want to lose each other.


    So i met my girlfriend on a website and we were just hanging out and having fun, but soon we realized that we were having amazing time and soon fell in love on the internet. I never thought this would happen to me because i thought internet relationships were silly, but with her i felt like i found my soulmate and she feels the same way.

    I was planning to move to UK before we met, so i moved next city to her so we would be together, because her religion is strict and wouldn't even allow her boyfriend from another religion, but she doesn't believe anyway but we keep our relationship hidden from her parents. So we met and fell in love for real and we make each other happy. It is only hard for me to hangout with her friends especially in bars because everyone is talking and music is loud so i don't understand much because Im from other country and adapting and i seem like a weirdo with a drink standing doing nothing and we talked about it we will try to go alone to clubs so i will feel more comfortable. :P ( I am saying these stuff because maybe any of these stuff might have impact too )

    Our only real problem so far is sex. It is both our first relationship ever so we actually don't know what we are doing. Sex is not how, she is in pain a lot (we will buy lube) and she doesn't enjoy penetration much she says she doesn't feel much. I am big and after a while it starts hurting her, so after 3-4 times the pain comes she stops being wet so we stop having sex. We have a lot foreplay and we always have sex when she is wet and also oral sex but she still doesn't feel much from it by me and Im sure i need to become better on that too but in time will be.

    I just want to make her feel nice in bed and orgasm by either oral or penetration but so far i think we are too comfortable on sex because we know everything about each other so we take sex not seriously and we just being silly so it isn't hot. I don't have any problems in general i can last long and we are always open in things saying what we like and how we like. But she has never came by either sex or oral and i feel sad about it. I know we love each other very much but maybe it is a sign that we aren't compatible? I feel she is my everything and she too, but she is at uni now and all confused by everything so sometime she even doubts the relationship but she loves me very much and its understandable because of her confusion and young age.

    I always live her to do anything and don't restrict her. The only restriction i have is not drink that much but this is for her own good anyway even if we weren't together because people can take advantage of her. Another that came up was that she asked me if she could dance with other guys and i said ok because i dance with girls too. But next day she danced with a guy and he grabbed her bottom and she felt bad about it. Guys hit a lot on her and she likes the attention but she doesn't want to do anything because we love each other. After that incident i realized that stranger girls can dance with guys but guys can't because they only think about sex eventually we agreed i wouldn't dance with girls and she wouldn't with guys.

    I wanted to be analytical because sex problems might hide in other problems too. I just want her to enjoy sex more because she loves masturbating and i feel bad i can't provide her with the same feeling. Please help we are both really confused. Sex is our only problem and we love each other more than everything, but i still worry that a dude in a bar will manipulate her feelings (because i have great knowledge about these stuff and how to manipulate girls feelings but i never and would never do that to her because i want a real relationship. I could easily make her go crazy on me with mind games but i will never play with her feelings) and she is friendly with guys so anyone could trick her and i worry about that too.

    Help me!
  • ratherberidin64
    Junior Member
    • Oct 2014
    • 1

    have you tried using any toys ?

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    • Funlife
      Member
      • Oct 2014
      • 10

      To me man should be adventurous in Sex. Not wild sex!!! Some woman won't tell their partner what she wanted, feels & etc. maybe she new to sex and just only know simple sex. Try Tantric sex, more romantic way to spice-up her feeling and satisfaction. Tantric Sex massage is nice and will make her feel wonderful and same time you can explore her whole lovely body, teasing her erotic body parts, like nipples, neck, vagina, anus opening....etc to let her feel erotic. Massage her body back with very light scratch..... so on. During tantric massage, you'll notice her reaction and you should know her sensitive area that can turn her on. NOT every woman the same. When you hit the right spot and will start fast. Both shall be naked during massage. Using oil is better. I just like treasure hunt!!! The treasure is there, you have to hunt it. happy trying.

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      • sawshark
        Junior Member
        • Oct 2014
        • 6

        Originally posted by WHforum
        To me man should be adventurous in Sex. Not wild sex!!! Some woman won't tell their partner what she wanted, feels & etc. maybe she new to sex and just only know simple sex. Try Tantric sex, more romantic way to spice-up her feeling and satisfaction. Tantric Sex massage is nice and will make her feel wonderful and same time you can explore her whole lovely body, teasing her erotic body parts, like nipples, neck, vagina, anus opening....etc to let her feel erotic. Massage her body back with very light scratch..... so on. During tantric massage, you'll notice her reaction and you should know her sensitive area that can turn her on. NOT every woman the same. When you hit the right spot and will start fast. Both shall be naked during massage. Using oil is better. I just like treasure hunt!!! The treasure is there, you have to hunt it. happy trying.
        Thank you for the reply! Never heard of tantric sex i will check it out because it sounds really interesting

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        • Funlife
          Member
          • Oct 2014
          • 10

          Have you tried? what is the outcomes.

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          • Obelisk
            Veteran Member
            • Jul 2013
            • 441

            This is sadly, a side effect of the incredibly mismatched biological craziness, where a guy might be significantly large, while the poor woman is significantly small.

            Have you tried giving her oral? there's tons of free videos online showing you how to do it.

            Most women do not feel much erotic sensation inside their vaginas, as the sensation is mostly in the clit (the so called G-Spot is just the inner clit). So you might try starting there with her (to get her aroused).
            Pigeonholer extraordinaire!

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            • raindancer
              Veteran Member
              • Sep 2014
              • 243

              I don't know if you're still around, but here it goes, just in case.

              You say she enjoys masturbation. So, my guess is that you aren't doing oral and other things in a way that works for her. It doesn't mean you aren't good at it. It's just that she may need different stimulation than what you're doing.

              I give you an example from a woman to a man. Suppose I'm giving oral to a man and I know he enjoys oral in general, but he's not really enjoying the kind of oral I'm giving him. Well, it could be I'm kind of giggling while doing it and it turns him off. It could be my teeth are touching him and hurting. It could be I'm licking like a cat drinking milk and that kind of movement does nothing for him. It could be I'm concentrating a lot on middle shaft and he needs glans stimulation. It could be I'm doing it in fast rhythm and he needs it slow. It could be we're doing it while he's sitting, but he needs to be laying down to really orgasm. It could be I'm sacking too hard. It could be there's too much saliva for him and he's disgusted.

              It could be I'm behaving like best friend, when he needs a hot lover... etc, etc, etc.

              For many women, rhythm is very important. The angle of attack tongue-clit is very important. For instance: tongue coming from above irritates me. It should come from kind of below... or something. A lover behaving like a best friend is a huge turn off. A man asking all the time if it's good, instead of trying things and reading the result from my body language is a huge turn off.

              So, there's also a lot of room for improvement.

              You can always ask her, but that can be a turn off. Some women, after explaining a man again and again how to please her and the guy doesn't get it, just give up on him.

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