[Jacqueline27]

I have been having sex for the last six years and have NEVER had an orgasm. I talked to my OBGYN about it and she said i could just have an inactive stimulus or that I needed extra arousal(foreplay, toys, etc..) some things helped more Than others but still cannot get close during sex. I need to know if I'm the only one..? Doesn't anyone else have this issue? If so any tricks or ways to improve it?

[Gary7]

You have no problem orgasming while masturbating? Are you talking about orgasming during penetration when you say "sex"?

[Lexhill]

As far as I know few girls can have an orgasm from intercourse alone. Usually it needs to be done some other play as well. Other than that I know alot of girls also complain about their sexual partners not being able to treat them good enough to get an orgasm. That's where teaching comes inn to play. Teach him how to do you. Every girl is different, that makes it harder for guys then girls when it comes to pleasing their partners.

For guys there are a few things basically everyone likes. And you will get that orgasm from him. Girls however is another story. There is different pressure needs, different locations to stimulate, some oral some not, and so on. From my experience getting to know a girl sexually takes a little time. But a helping hand in teaching us your preferences helps out a lot. If a guys does not want to listen to your needs/teachings, then he is the problem.

[Jacqueline27]

I have not been able to orgasm with anything.. Ever. Just get closer to it in foreplay than with penetration during sex. I feel like I need go fake it because he always asks if it is him but I reassure him that it is me and that I am just unable to.

[Farmer by trade]

Jacqueline27,

Have you tried oral sex? My wife finds it easier to orgasm with oral sex than with vaginal intercourse. There is much we can do with our mouths that heighten the arousal.

It important to focus on the pleasure rather then the end goal.

Have fun trying.

[Funlife]

sad to hear that but not the end.
Maybe your partner are adventurous type and didn't or hardly see your reaction before and during sex. he shall analyse and do some research your body the most sensitive part etc. Yes, some woman hard to reach orgasm but not necessary won't reach. Some woman won't achieved orgasm on vagina penetration but achieved on anal sex. share with him, the most erotic part of your body when he touched you. Tantric Sex also will boost your feel during sex. Do you know where is your G-spot!!

[Magnetism]

Do you stimulate your clitoris? To me, orgasming is easy that way.

[Gary7]

You've never had an orgasm? I'm sorry to hear that. I hope it's a temporary situation. Have you tried masturbating using different techniques? Using your fingers to stimulate your clitoris is probably the most common way, but it may be that you require more stimulation. I've been told that the Hitachi wands are pretty intense for many women. It's generally better if you can figure out how to get yourself off before expecting a partner to do it.

There are physical reasons you may not be able to achieve an orgasm, but they're awfully rare. A good GYN should be able to help here. More common would be psychological problems, particularly if you've had some traumatic incidents in your past. Again, a good GYN should be able to help you find a professional to help you.

I hope you can find the solution. Good luck.

[PhrendlyPhil]

Jacqueline: You may want to master orgasm for yourself before you include your partner. Allow yourself a good bit of time alone in complete privacy. Read a racy novel to get yourself in the mood (if you think you need it). Explore with your fingers around your labia, outer and inner. Moisten your finger and rub your clitoris, caress your inner thighs, squeeze and relax your buttocks. If needed use a dildo or vibrator (there are a lot of recommendations on this forum). Try stimulating your vulva with the shower massage or stream from the tub faucet. Allow yourself to "feel good." Eventually you will find something that works. In the meantime enjoy yourself. Once you've mastered orgasm by masturbating you can then invite your lover to join you. You can enjoy some mutual masturbation or intercourse (with a bit of help from yourself).