[jde]

My finance and I have been together for 5 years, and we’re getting married here in December. Throughout this entire relationship, we have not had intercourse. I am not a virgin. I have not had sex for 7 years, but I am very concerned about ‘our first time’ . I realize with the aid of lubricant, this experience will be much more pleasurable, but I am still concerned about being sore throughout our entire honeymoon, because my finance is not a small guy 7". I get sore even if he fingers me. Does anyone have any suggestions positions/techniques that could help us out???? I just want our honeymoon to be a great experience. Has anyone been in the same position as me? Or how does that first week of sex feel after not having sex for such a long time? Thanks any help would be great!!!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

This is hard

Why because we perhaps are all wondering why, you have not had sex with him for 5 years when you are not a virgin? Does he know that? I mean, you obviously felt it was okay, then all of a sudden for this man not? So, i guess if you can answer that, then it may be easier for someone else to answer your question. Sorry but...

[Autumn]

I think why she's decided not to have sex with him is irrelevant.
Sorry I can't help but congrats on getting married, have a wonderful day.

[jde]

Well, I lost my virginity-out of the blue- at a very young age. I realized that this was not the most mature thing to do, and I did not have sex after that incident. My finance and I wanted to wait until we were married to have sex to perserve some part of our relationship. Believe me its been very very hard, but that only puts more pressure on the new transition. I am really worried about the experience, but so anxious at the same time. I just dont want everything to go wrong.

[metboogie]

Just so you know, it's fiancee, not finance. Don't mean to insult - I'm just a skickler for spelling.

Anyhow, I think it's admirable that you kept you and your fiancee held off for so long.

As for your problem, there really isn't any magic position. The 2 best would be doggystyle (because of the angle) and you on top (because you can control the action). Plenty of foreplay, plenty of lube, and remember - the best sex you will have WON'T be on your wedding night or honeymoon. It will be long after that - so keep your expectations low and nobody's feelings will get hurt.

Also remember - couples on their honeymoon have a tendency to have a lot of drunk sex (especially if your going to some all inclusive resort)...but the alcohol will make you dry up quicker - so keep the lube handy.

Also, I don't know if you want kids right away. If you don't, start birth control ASAP.

Good luck and congrats.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I think why she's decided not to have sex with him is irrelevant.
Sorry I can't help but congrats on getting married, have a wonderful day.

Your right Autumn, when i read back the way that sounded, i was more curious of the deepness of their love and expected that the be the reason, and i was right.

So my reply therefore, is, it's not relevant when you were young and not ******, it's beautiful that you've waited for and with this man for 5 years and your now getting married, congratulations...

The love you obviously have, will be beautiful on the night.

I'd say enjoy the evening, limit your alcohol content and get plenty of sleep the night before.

Feel the woman that you are on that night, and the beauty of the two of you for the first time, all day on the day.

Just look into each other's eyes, kiss each other passionately, take your time and explore a little bit of each other this time knowing that you will now be making love for the first time and i'm sure you'll be extremely excited and loving and him back.

Visualise the night, if you stress about it up until the day, you'll be a nervous wreck, it will be all that you want it to be and more...

Congratulations again and thanks for answering, sometimes i need more information, so i'm sorry if it offended.

Just take your time.....