[buffykatt9]

I have a ton of trouble coming when masturbating, the clitoral stimulus gets so intense that I freak out and can't finish. I also get close to squirting a lot but hold it back because I'm always afraid its pee even though I know its not, its so hard to let myself go and just enjoy it. I'm 26 now and have been practicing for six years now by myself, still feel like the clit orgasm is too intense. I have no problem coming during sex, but why can't i get past the fear of doing it myself?

[Adviser]

I didn't have an orgasm until I was 19. I had experimented before that, but always stopped because it was too intense. When I first had an orgasm, I had touched myself for over an hour, and when it came it was a surprise. I took the time to just feel the pleasure, stopping when it was too intense and trying again the next day.

I understand the feeling she has where she just can't continue. You should not force this, because you pressuring her is a fail safe way for her to never have an orgasm! What she needs to do is spend some time on her own, exploring her own body, working out what is right for her, and working at her own pace. If she tries touching around her clitoris rather than her method of masturbating, that will help her in the future with reaching orgasm with you.

She needs to reach orgasm on her own, in her own time, and then she will know what she likes, and can tell you.