[cathygirl]

It's just a question. I'm bisexual, but I am in a monogamous marriage. Most women I know love seeing the body of sexy women even if they say they would not like to be intimate with another woman. Many say they "might" if the circumstances were right, though they never have. I'm curious what others here think. I would call someone at least a little bi if they liked watching porn between two women, for example...

[jns]

I don't think most women are. Are there more than are out in society, sure. If I may ask, have you been with both men and women? If so, how are those experiences different?

[cathygirl]

My first sexual relationship was when I was 17 and it was with a woman who was several years older than me. That was my only physical experience with a woman, and I've now been married to my husband for 17 years. But as far as attraction goes, I am attracted to both men and women - equally so as far as I can tell, though as I say, my husband and I are monogamous.

As far as difference, it seems to me that the whole power dynamic in the relationship is very different. Also, they character of the eroticism is very different, without getting to explicit.

I just hear so many women admit that they find lesbian porn stimulating even though they would not be physically involved with a woman. And women do seem more physically expressive with one another. I just wonder if most women wouldn't be more bisexual in their orientation if they were socially free to admit that. Maybe I'm completely off base. I'm always curious how others feel because my own experiences are... well, somewhat limited! What other people think, feel, and do is something I always like knowing about.

[muffin70]

I don't think my wife is the least bit bisexual... but she did say that an Indian woman that had started at her work was very attractive.... I saw photos on facebook and agreed with my wife that she was a very pretty lady.....

[jns]

Why I don't think it is a majority of women who are at least a little bisexual is that a lot of women are from a religious background and such backgrounds are more open to heterosexual relationships. There is probably some exposure to lesbian sex due to SOs liking it in such relationships although the more religious probably do not view much porn.

I would expect woman-woman relationships to be more equitable and more on target since each partner would use her own likes as a basis for what the other likes. On the other hand, I would expect relationships with men to have more strength exerted in them (by the men).

[chaya]

I am bisexual, I live with my husband and my girlfriend. I have sex with both of them, not at the same time. Neither my husband or my girlfriend are bisexual. I am not attracted to other women but sometimes am attracted to men other than my husband. As my present situation developed, I didn't think it could last long. I was wrong, it has been well over a year and it looks like it could last permanently. I have an adopted daughter and she is loved equally by all three of us. Before becoming involved with my girlfriend I never thought I was bisexual.

[cathygirl]

There are an awful lot of self-identified straight women, in my experience, that say they have had either some sort of same-sex sexual experience or arousal. But I think maybe because of the religious factor jns cited, a lot of women who are aroused at the thought or sight of a woman would not say so.

Actually, I'm not sexually attracted to 95% of the people in the world. But the people I do find attractive and arousing are pretty much equally divided. Doesn't mean I go to bed with them, just how I respond to them.

[atskitty2]

I am a woman, and I have done a fair amount of thinking and evaluation of myself in this area over the last few years.<br />
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I decided I'm probably not bisexual. I have been attracted to women before, and I've done some messing around but nothing really intimate with a woman. I no longer have that curiosity. <br />
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What I find is that I'm often looking at women, appreciation of their beauty and shapes, including my own, and that actually makes me want a man, as odd as it sounds. <br />
When I see a beautiful woman, or when I think of my own body, it's a man that I long to feel or that I envision another woman with. I notice the beauty in women much more than men, but it's a very different sort of thing for me. Maybe that's different than most ppl, but it's the case with me.<br />
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I don't enjoy much porn anyway, but I do enjoy girl on girl. I think that doesn't mean someone has bisexual tendencies, I think it means we can relate to the form of expression and beauty of women.<br />
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All of that said, I can also say that if I ever were to meet a woman that I cared to be involved with, I'd not shy away from it, just because it was a new feeling...I'm open for whatever presents itself. I can't imagine that happening, but I'm open for what life has to offer. May sound contradictory, but I don't think so.

[Ashlee T.]

I believe that most of us are much more sexually "fluid" than we would like to admit or can even truly identify in ourselves. For some reason it seems women seem more apt to embrace that, but perhaps it is because it is more accepted by society for women to "ride the fence".

[Ashlee T.]

I was just re-reading this thread and it's funny how accurately atskitty's response describes my own feelings regarding this topic. :-) WH bringing kindred spirits together!