[Just-a-regular-guy]

Dear women of the web.....

My wife and I are quite adventurous.... we want our sexlife to be totally free and uninhibated (but remaining within the confines of our vowes)....

Sometimes I want to try new things - from little things to the more erotic types...... I want to be free to express my desires and to be spontaneous in their execution......

My request is this: what is "too far"?

Please share your experiences where your mate went too far so I can avoid or re-think my options. What was uncomfortable? What made you feel degraded - I absolutely want to avoid this one as I love my wife to death - she's great...... I am just trying to get my bearings on the boundries from the female side.... upon self-examination I find that I apparently have no real boundries...

Thanks for the help.....

[Fallen1]

In my opinion that is a discussion you need to be having with her.

Just because something is "to far" for me doesn't mean it will be "to far" for someone else. Likewise, something I might do may be "to far" for someone else.

We're all different.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

Exactly. For one girl blowjobs might be going too far, for another anal fisting might not even be far enough.

Only you (and she) can answer that one.

[Just-a-regular-guy]

Understood.....

Thank you for the replies..... I do realize that we have to talk - and we do.... I guess what I'm asking is for feedback on areas to proceed carefully.... perhaps someone has had an experience that wasn't thrilling or they felt degraded..... for instance.... cumming on a women's breasts.... or having her squat over my mouth.... what about asking her to suck on my balls..... anything out there that you could share to definately talk about thoroughly before trying???

[C]

All of the above we do and they are just wonderful....I love to ride his tongue and a man cumming on your breasts is so sexual.....But the most sexual act of love that blows my mind is after he has taken himself out of me going down on him and cleaning him off with my tongue...The wonderful smell of our sexual parts....The pleasure in watching his eyes as I adore his body....I clean each part of him off and I love it......Once, he told me I could suck a statue alive.....I think we women love all things but talk to her.....Sometimes I even surprise myself......Wilder than an untamed animal.....But it is just wonderful...

[Uneeklyme]

The only instance I can think of where a man went "to far" is when he didn't talk to me about it first. I personally have very few boundaries but taking that for granted is pushing a limit.

[hello_pitty]

Well you're gonna laugh at me, but I don't like oral performed on me. I am just self consious about my vag. But he also has never offered to do it, but that's goods for me!! It also doesn't feel that great for me, it actually feels strange...I never liked it even with my one EX who had a "lightning" tongue lol I never came from oral, but just the actual sex act...I LOVE sex. But if he has something he wants to try, I am more than happy to try it with him, and we have. Anything BUT someone outside of our relationship. No threesomes (although I have tried them, both ways "guy-guy-girl and girl-girl-guy") We have yet to try toys.

[misslady66]

honestly if you have communication with her you will be well aware what is too far
if you start going too far sexually - it doesn't even have to be verbal what she does in response - like pushing away, not enjoying it, faking a good feeling for you, not desiring doing anything that night

but a good healthy sex-life isn't killed by talking about it
if you bring this up to her I'm sure being as adventuroud as she is she wouldn't be apaulled

communication
eye contact
body language
thats how you know

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I think if you discuss both having "no boundries, no inhibitions" then there will be nothing that is degrading to each other, as you are in love with each other.

I think degrading is only when the trust hasn't been built up and your in a relationship, not marriage and he trys something without asking, or makes suggestions of a third party when you haven't even been together for that long, type of thing...

There is nothing you shouldn't try as long as your contsantly discussing it first as aposed to just doing it and then worried after about her reaction, ie) anual when she's not expecting.

But tied up when she's not expecting or blindfolded is a completely different thing, as you need some "suprise and unknown events" for them to be exciting....

CW

[SinisterUrge]

The day my wife takes a **** in my mouth is the day I file for divorce.