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    I am a 19-year-old college student with narcolepsy and cataplexy. I take adderall and nuvigil for narcolepsy and Effexor for cataplexy. Ever since I was little I have been more of a sexual being than girls around me. I can remember having random orgasms in my sleep while dreaming before I even knew what an orgasm was. I’ve been reading porn online since I was ten, masturbating since I was eleven, and watching porn since I was thirteen. I’ve always been that one friend that everybody could go to when they were curious about sex and what’s going on down there but were too nervous or embarrassed to do the research themselves. I masturbate every day on average, and I bring myself to orgasm every time (even though it takes a while sometimes and requires concentration). I lost my virginity when I was seventeen and have had sex with four guys total. Every single time I have sex it feels good/okay for about two to three minutes. After that it begins to become uncomfortable, with a painful sort of burning feeling. I find myself wishing the guy would hurry up and finish. Needless to say, I’ve never come close to having an orgasm from penetration. If myself or my partner tries to work on my clit during penetration to try and make it feel better, there is no stimulation and it sometimes even makes the discomfort worse. I’ve come a little closer to orgasm from being fingered, but not very close at all. I’ve never come anywhere near orgasm from oral, nor from my partner rubbing my clit. It’s so frustrating that I’ve cried multiple times after sex from feeling like a failure, like I’m broken. Being open and proud of my sexuality as a woman is something that is so important to me, but I can’t even enjoy sex like everyone else I know. My best friend who is just as sexual as me just told me last night that she accidentally squirted during sex a while ago and regularly orgasms with a partner. My heart dropped. It’s not that I’m not happy for her, it’s that I’m jealous that she’s able to enjoy an exciting sex life, able to want pleasure and know she can get it. When any of my friends talk about wanting sex, it’s because it feels good for them. I talk about wanting sex because I have the desire for intimate pleasure in that way, but I know that I can’t get it. It’s a hope that maybe it will feel good next time. That maybe some switch will turn on. But, two out of the three medications I take for narcolepsy and cataplexy are known for causing sexual dysfunction. I will have to take them for the rest of my life. I’m so scared that I’ll never be able to enjoy sex, that I’ll never know what it feels like to have someone I love please me, and that I am undesirable because of it. It’s caused a sort of resentment for the partners I have for being able to enjoy the things I do to them, and for my friends for being able to enjoy sex. It’s devastating. I’ve heard about the “o shot” which sounds like my absolute dream come true but it’s expensive (although I would be willing to pay it anyway) and there isn’t ample research to prove its safety and long term effects. I’ve heard that kegels can help and have been looking at the Intensity device, but I don’t know if that can improve my sexual dysfunction if it’s caused by medication. I feel hopeless and broken. Has anyone experienced anything similar? Are there any remedies for it, or am I just stuck like this? Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you

  • Originally posted by straes79 View Post
    I am a 19-year-old college student with narcolepsy and cataplexy. I take adderall and nuvigil for narcolepsy and Effexor for cataplexy. Ever since I was little I have been more of a sexual being than girls around me. I can remember having random orgasms in my sleep while dreaming before I even knew what an orgasm was. I’ve been reading porn online since I was ten, masturbating since I was eleven, and watching porn since I was thirteen. I’ve always been that one friend that everybody could go to when they were curious about sex and what’s going on down there but were too nervous or embarrassed to do the research themselves. I masturbate every day on average, and I bring myself to orgasm every time (even though it takes a while sometimes and requires concentration). I lost my virginity when I was seventeen and have had sex with four guys total. Every single time I have sex it feels good/okay for about two to three minutes. After that it begins to become uncomfortable, with a painful sort of burning feeling. I find myself wishing the guy would hurry up and finish. Needless to say, I’ve never come close to having an orgasm from penetration. If myself or my partner tries to work on my clit during penetration to try and make it feel better, there is no stimulation and it sometimes even makes the discomfort worse. I’ve come a little closer to orgasm from being fingered, but not very close at all. I’ve never come anywhere near orgasm from oral, nor from my partner rubbing my clit. It’s so frustrating that I’ve cried multiple times after sex from feeling like a failure, like I’m broken. Being open and proud of my sexuality as a woman is something that is so important to me, but I can’t even enjoy sex like everyone else I know. My best friend who is just as sexual as me just told me last night that she accidentally squirted during sex a while ago and regularly orgasms with a partner. My heart dropped. It’s not that I’m not happy for her, it’s that I’m jealous that she’s able to enjoy an exciting sex life, able to want pleasure and know she can get it. When any of my friends talk about wanting sex, it’s because it feels good for them. I talk about wanting sex because I have the desire for intimate pleasure in that way, but I know that I can’t get it. It’s a hope that maybe it will feel good next time. That maybe some switch will turn on. But, two out of the three medications I take for narcolepsy and cataplexy are known for causing sexual dysfunction. I will have to take them for the rest of my life. I’m so scared that I’ll never be able to enjoy sex, that I’ll never know what it feels like to have someone I love please me, and that I am undesirable because of it. It’s caused a sort of resentment for the partners I have for being able to enjoy the things I do to them, and for my friends for being able to enjoy sex. It’s devastating. I’ve heard about the “o shot” which sounds like my absolute dream come true but it’s expensive (although I would be willing to pay it anyway) and there isn’t ample research to prove its safety and long term effects. I’ve heard that kegels can help and have been looking at the Intensity device, but I don’t know if that can improve my sexual dysfunction if it’s caused by medication. I feel hopeless and broken. Has anyone experienced anything similar? Are there any remedies for it, or am I just stuck like this? Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you
    It sounds like you may have conditioned yourself to your own particular way you masturbate. Do you use porn to reach orgasm? Porn tends to concentrate visuals on the sex organs and that can end up being a part of reaching orgasm. Have you ever had sex with a favorite porn video playing at the same time (sound could be off)?

    Has any of your sex partners spent a day in which it was all about you and your desires? If so, has such partner either been capable of reading your body movements or asked if this or that felt good and tried to tailor the experience to what you like?

    Have you complained to the doctor that your medications are lessening your sexual desire? I know that a lot of times doctors minimize or ignore the sexual aspect of the side effects of taking medications but still they need to be informed and be requested to make adjustments.

    You are not broken, just have a few challenges that need to be worked through.
    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
    ...
    Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

    From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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    • I agree with jns. It doesn't sound like you are broken to me. The fact that you have a healthy libido and the fact that you masturbate daily tell me that there is nothing wrong with you sexually. I think if your meds were to blame, you'd have trouble with libido and with masturbation as well.

      The burning description sounds like you're not producing enough lubrication, which tells me that either you're using lube during masturbation OR you have discovered ways on your own to push the right buttons. And then when you're having intercourse, those buttons aren't being pushed.

      Personally, I'd give up the masturbation for a while. I think you're desensitizing yourself. And then, I'd work with my boyfriend with different foreplay and different sexual positions to see if you can assist him in finding the right buttons to push.
      "Be what you're looking for."

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      • Probably not too relevant but I was shot through the groin when I was in Afghanistan. I was told all my nerves had failed and i wouldn't walk, have sex or be able to reproduce. I emerged myself in meditation, self well-being and belief, as well as as a hot of physical hard work. 3 years later i was playing sports and got my partner pregnant. The point of this story is that the mind can overcome physical barriers and ultimately controls everything

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        • Originally posted by straes79 View Post
          I am a 19-year-old college student with narcolepsy and cataplexy. I take adderall and nuvigil for narcolepsy and Effexor for cataplexy. Ever since I was little I have been more of a sexual being than girls around me. I can remember having random orgasms in my sleep while dreaming before I even knew what an orgasm was. I’ve been reading porn online since I was ten, masturbating since I was eleven, and watching porn since I was thirteen. I’ve always been that one friend that everybody could go to when they were curious about sex and what’s going on down there but were too nervous or embarrassed to do the research themselves. I masturbate every day on average, and I bring myself to orgasm every time (even though it takes a while sometimes and requires concentration). I lost my virginity when I was seventeen and have had sex with four guys total. Every single time I have sex it feels good/okay for about two to three minutes. After that it begins to become uncomfortable, with a painful sort of burning feeling. I find myself wishing the guy would hurry up and finish. Needless to say, I’ve never come close to having an orgasm from penetration. If myself or my partner tries to work on my clit during penetration to try and make it feel better, there is no stimulation and it sometimes even makes the discomfort worse. I’ve come a little closer to orgasm from being fingered, but not very close at all. I’ve never come anywhere near orgasm from oral, nor from my partner rubbing my clit. It’s so frustrating that I’ve cried multiple times after sex from feeling like a failure, like I’m broken. Being open and proud of my sexuality as a woman is something that is so important to me, but I can’t even enjoy sex like everyone else I know. My best friend who is just as sexual as me just told me last night that she accidentally squirted during sex a while ago and regularly orgasms with a partner. My heart dropped. It’s not that I’m not happy for her, it’s that I’m jealous that she’s able to enjoy an exciting sex life, able to want pleasure and know she can get it. When any of my friends talk about wanting sex, it’s because it feels good for them. I talk about wanting sex because I have the desire for intimate pleasure in that way, but I know that I can’t get it. It’s a hope that maybe it will feel good next time. That maybe some switch will turn on. But, two out of the three medications I take for narcolepsy and cataplexy are known for causing sexual dysfunction. I will have to take them for the rest of my life. I’m so scared that I’ll never be able to enjoy sex, that I’ll never know what it feels like to have someone I love please me, and that I am undesirable because of it. It’s caused a sort of resentment for the partners I have for being able to enjoy the things I do to them, and for my friends for being able to enjoy sex. It’s devastating. I’ve heard about the “o shot” which sounds like my absolute dream come true but it’s expensive (although I would be willing to pay it anyway) and there isn’t ample research to prove its safety and long term effects. I’ve heard that kegels can help and have been looking at the Intensity device, but I don’t know if that can improve my sexual dysfunction if it’s caused by medication. I feel hopeless and broken. Has anyone experienced anything similar? Are there any remedies for it, or am I just stuck like this? Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you
          I don't know if the drugs have an affect on your sexuality.

          If what Ive read about pornography is true then porn destroys ones ability to enjoy real sex.

          Using an analogy of opiates as an example; apparently what happens is porn gets you aroused and you get a dopamine hit from it.

          after months or years of watching pornography one becomes desensitized to the affects of visual stimuli until it reaches a point that its doesn't work or its a lot less affective at getting you aroused, which then leads to variations of what will arouse one. Which basically means one seeks out younger looking gilrs or boys, more extreme pornography. One keeps trying something different as the affect of pornography starts to wear off.

          A similar thing happens if you take opiates. over time the drug loses its ability to stop pain until eventually its doesn't work.

          Then you are forced to take a higher dosage to get the same from it until event that higher dosage doesn't work.

          Same with pornography. Constant dopamine hit eventually burns out the receptors much like loud music destroys the tiny little hairs inside your ears.

          Eventually you suffer from hearing loss.

          They engineered bees or some other insect so that its didn't mate or they did something to it to alter the insect. sure it worked okay but then they discover the male insects will no longer breed. They've created a species that will no longer breed. its lost its biological will to want to reproduce.

          Man is altering many difference types of species in ways we could never even dream of before.

          Im guessing that porn has affected your ability to get aroused with a real man.

          Your brain has been rewired to work at being aroused by visual and audio but not the real thing.

          That I suspect maybe part of it.

          The other problem is continuously rubbing the clitoris causes friction and friction too much causes discomfort and pain.

          People watch porn and use that as education to some extent.

          But the problem with porn is its made to make money, its not made as education based on science.

          Most people that grind away at the clit do so not really understanding what they are doing or whether its working or not.

          I rarely if ever rub the clitoris because its extremely sensitive and rubbing it may in fact have the opposite affect of what we are trying to achieve.

          It may arouse a women or it may turn her off it just depends of frequency, pressure, and other factors.

          I think there is way too much emphasis put on rubbing the clit.

          Also another thing Ive read is people rubbing the so called g-spot. apart from selling a lot of books is there any proof rubbing the g-spot actually works ?

          Also do **** rings, rubber dildos, butt plugs, gag balls, and any other piece of plastic really work in getting people aroused ?

          As far as I know none of these things actually work.

          when sex got commercialised they decide to monetise it but I have never used things like dildos. In fact I hate this stuff.

          I can get a women aroused no problem just with my hands and loving them.

          to me its about dining out, loving them, being kind and considerate, having a fun day at the beach together then later a nice meal at a nice restaurant.

          I don't ever see sex as a conquest or a notch on my belt.

          I like to enjoy a women's company and enjoy my life with her.

          the problem we have now is there is just not enough empathy for women or girls.

          many men see women as the enemy to be exploited and trying to get virgins.

          Racking up hundreds of partners as if its competition to get as many women as possible.

          Most people don't make love, they fk each other. also they don't want commitment or a long term relationship.

          This is where we are at in 2019.

          All these changes are against nature against biology.

          This is why we just don't enjoy sex like we should.

          My advice is to get your boyfriend to take you out for nice dinner and then go for long walk on the beach. eat out at a nice restaurant or diner or make a nice meal and eat it together.

          Women and men need romance.

          Where is the love ?

          we need a fundamental change in our attitude towards sex.

          Our sexual culture is a mess.

          After a meal make love to each other don't fk.

          kiss, cuddle, hug, get emotional towards each other.

          no more porn.

          Just hug each other for weeks on end don't have sex at all.

          just caress each other and keep caressing each other being gentle, quiet, slow, patient, caring, loving, emotional.

          Caress her for three hours feel the pain in your arms as you gently caress her.

          Wait until your nuts are blue with pain.

          If she's drenched all over her body okay yes she's ready to enter but if she's dry at her entrance don't enter. Never enter a girl or women that's dry.

          Dry means don't do it.

          wet is lubricant.

          that's a hint.

          caress her body with your hands in a way that's gentle and slow, painfully slow and patient.

          When her top lip gets damp you know its working.

          Eventually her entire body will be wet which is like sweat but different its kinda like gooey sweat that the body releases.

          she will tell you when to enter because shell know something is about to happen.

          Most probably she is at the threshold of orgasm and that's the time when you enter her.

          Don't worry when her vagina starts to clamp down that's normal you just go with it.

          summary.

          don't watch porn
          enjoy romance in your life that's part of it
          caress each other for hours and I mean hours I can tell you its worth it.
          Whats will happen will change your life and the way you view sex forever.




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