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  • Unsatisfying Side Effect of Medication

    Curious to know if any of you have endured a medication with a side-effect of not being able to reach orgasm. I'm dealing with that now, and hoping as the dosage levels out that this will go away. In the meantime though, it's frustrating for myself and my hubs. It's meant to be a long-term medication, but I'm only gonna be okay with this for so long.

    Aside from assuring him that it's not his fault (he gets it), I'd be appreciative of any tips from anyone who has dealt with this. Especially grateful for anything that will help me conquer this.

  • Have you tried Viagra, Cialis or other similar medications? Another approach is to get a different prescription medication that does the same thing but doesn't have the same side effect. Unfortunately, I have found doctors to be not helpful when dealing with erectile dysfunction. A satisfying sex life is not a strict medical necessity. Not being able to reach orgasm can take several forms. One form is the loss of erection. Another form is to not lose erection but not have enough of the right sensation to reach the peak and go over it. All if this has to go with the mental attitude of wanting to have good sex. If that is not happening, the release of hormones at the right time does not take place. It would be helpful if you described the process that occurs with you and your husband. Also, can he still masturbate? Was the lesbian porn an attempt to "jump start" him?
    I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
    ...
    Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

    From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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    • Ugh, that sucks, Wednesday L.F., sorry you're experiencing that. I'd definitely talk to your doctor to see if they have any suggestions.

      I've never experienced this personally, but I know people who have, and it depends on the medication/health condition. Changing the time of day you take the dosage or potentially changing the dosage itself is sometimes helpful, depending on what your doctor says. Otherwise, using lube, extending foreplay, trying to enjoy the process, and reminding yourself that orgasming doesn't have to be the only "goal" of sex, if that makes sense, seems to be helpful.

      Ultimately, if the problem persists, hopefully your doctor will have other solutions. At the end of the day, it's your body, and you decide what you can and can't tolerate.

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      • jns I believe Wednesday L.F. was talking about her own personal side effects vs. those of her husband, as she is taking the medication.

        Regardless, I have heard and seen this often...its crappy as JNS says, because doctors, they are "first do no harm" and whether or not you're happy with your sex life, is the last thing they care about, but I agree this is all-important.

        Antidepressants, high blood pressure meds, etc, all have possible side effects that you describe. There are ways to counteract this, but ultimately, it will take some experimentation and time to figure out dosages and meds that work better.

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        • Originally posted by JonnyR View Post
          jns I believe Wednesday L.F. was talking about her own personal side effects vs. those of her husband, as she is taking the medication.

          Regardless, I have heard and seen this often...its crappy as JNS says, because doctors, they are "first do no harm" and whether or not you're happy with your sex life, is the last thing they care about, but I agree this is all-important.

          Antidepressants, high blood pressure meds, etc, all have possible side effects that you describe. There are ways to counteract this, but ultimately, it will take some experimentation and time to figure out dosages and meds that work better.
          Yes, Jonny, you are right. I misread the original post. Unfortunately there are no drugs like Viagra for women at this time. Wednesday L.F. , where in the process is the stalling point? No sensation at all? Good sensation but not spectacular? Great sensation that builds but plateaus at a high level? How about your perception? Feels good or is annoying? Who controls the rhythm, you or your husband? Oral or PIV? Unfortunately, not being able to reach orgasm can lead to a mental block or performance anxiety. I'm pretty sure that goes for both sexes (and all genders). Not having an orgasm for several days to several weeks can cause a person's body to sensitize again. I have found that to be when I have had to do the least work for her to have an orgasm. If she has been reaching orgasm regularly, I have found that she becomes less sensitive over time. To counteract that, I like her on top so she can set her own rhythm of thrusting, in a 69 like position. Side positions can also work. If she is still having problems, I go at it for a while and then back off. Then I repeat the cycle. And again if needed. While backing off, I visit other erogenous areas. This is to break through a plateau problem. Every woman is different so what works with one or some may not work on another.
          I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
          ...
          Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

          From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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          • I experienced this when I took anti-depressants, even at the lowest doses. I didn't have the issue consistently throughout the course of taking it though. It seemed to be related to other factors, including whether I was able to relax and focus, but it really just inhibits that ability altogether. I hated what the drug did to me mentally, and I ultimately decided I was better off without the meds. (I tried several drugs)
            I even used Wellbutrin, which was supposed to be without the sexual side effects, but I had the same issue with it.

            So, I think I'd approach this from a different perspective. Have you tried every other path to control the condition for which the drug is intended? That would be my first thought-control it in a different way if possible. Use the medication only as a last resort (depending on the condition being treated). There are some ways to control some things, aside from drugs. Often our docs don't encourage that, but it's worth looking into, if you're willing to implement some possible changes. And of course, talk that over with your doctor.

            If you've tried other means, or just aren't willing to do so, then I'd ask the doc to offer a new prescription to control it. Generally, the types of drugs that cause these sexual side effects, have alternatives. The drugs typically have a more effective target use, but they are effective in other ways as well.

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            • Thanks, all. I did talk to my doc yesterday. She thinks the meds should level out and this side effect will go away in a week or two. But now I’m feeling all this pressure about it (not from my hubs, but because I am my own worst critic) and can’t seem to just relax and enjoy the moment.

              I guess we’ll see what happens.

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