My Wife & Orgasm

[EmpyNester]

Hi Ladies,

I've been doing some lurking and reading up on some previous posts, but have not found a definitive answer.

Anyway, my wife (20+ years) and I have a very good relationship and have regular sex (~2x per week). The sex is almost always passionate, fun, hot, good foreplay etc. We have a great time together. A while back as a result of some girl talk with her friends, she told me she does not "finish." She reassured me that it was not me and that she is totally satisfied with out sex life. But, it is not like she just lays there and is not into it (great sex faces BTW). And... I often notice that as she seems to ramp up with her moans, facial expressions, bucking, etc. that I can feel her contract around me. At times this is what will finish me! Is she having and orgasm, but just does not consider it to be an orgasm?

Interested in your takes?

Thanks!

[Wednesday L.F.]

Not all orgasms are created equal. It’s possible that, without knowing it, she’s having smaller, less intense orgasms that don’t feel like actually ‘finishing.’ Myself, there are low level cultural orgasms that are pleasurable, but don’t feel intense enough for me to feel completely satisfied. But after a well-placed O with g-spot emphasis, I’m done for the evening.

So yes, it’s possible that she is climaxing to some degree. Keep in mind too that most women don’t achieve orgasms through intercourse alone—fewer than 30% do so regularly.

[EmpyNester]

Thanks LF. I've tried over the years to introduce Oral (not into it) and toys (only mildly interested) to no avail She is seemingly happy with our sex life, so I am not going to obsess over it.

[jns]

There are only two ways that I knowingly have got lovers to finish through my actions: finger play and oral. Finger play has to be done very carefully so as to apply just the right amount of stimulation. The tongue cannot apply as much pressure, is softer and is slippery from moisture so that probably helps. What finger play has going for it is that you can have a sensous kiss at the same time a finger or two are providing stimulation which can enhance the overall situation. It can also occur while having intercourse.