[Tinkerbell777]

my boyfriend and i been together for 3 and a half years. i want to try using sex toys like a vibrator maybe. but i dont want him to think he dont make me feel good and im scared to try it. is using a vibrator a good idea?
and plus i dont want him to laugh at me when he finds out. should i even approach him with this topic?

thanks =)

[WildChild]

What would happen if he laughed? Are you thinking he would be POd, amused, insulted? Millions of people use toys in their sex play and have for thousands of years. Really. They find dildos in archeological digs all over the place. Sexual pleasure and enhancing it has been a part of the human experience for as long as there have been humans.

[rcoreyus]

Go look at an online shop together (or a real shop if you arent' too embarassed).

[Tinkerbell777]

thanks. what would you guys recommend for starters?

[rcoreyus]

There are so many options because people like different things. Many women find vibrators can produce quite orgasms, but some have problems with being desensitized. Dildos can be OK - but not so easy to use with a partner - unless you enjoy anal sex and want both at the same time. For some people a bit of bondage play is fun - velcro handcuffs etc.

[p3375]

For starters, just look at some of them on line or in the store (better), pick something and go have fun with it.

I have a box of em - some used a lot, some hardly more than once. One nice thing about toys is they don't get hurt feelings when they are shoved aside for something different.
Pat

[Faerunner]

If you want something you can use together, or that he can use on you, go with a small vibrator like a 'bullet' or 'egg' vibrator. Eggs are insertable whereas bullets often aren't, but both are small enough to be used on you or him as you like during intercourse without really getting in the way. I got lucky in that my boyfriend (now my husband) wanted to buy me a vibrator when we first started dating, and he was ok with watching me masturbate or joining in. I eventually even worked up to being able to openly masturbate after sex if he hadn't satisfied me (of course I usually tell him that he's gotten me so worked up that I just want more XD but we both know the truth and he's ok with it since I have never held it against him).

You could talk to your boyfriend about wanting to try a toy, and see what he has to say. Try explaining that he really satisfies you and that the last thing you want to do is replace him with a toy but that you're curious and think he might enjoy it too. Remind him that he can use it on you if he gets tired of trying to please you in other ways, or that he can use it on himself if he likes to. He should see it as an addition to your sexual activities, not as a replacement for him.