[JonDoe]

My wife has not been able to orgasm when we introduce a vibrator. It seems as if she gets close, but cannot reach orgasm this way. We have tried using the vibrator just on the clitoris and on the G-spot, both with and without oral, but still no "O".

Could it simply be that she needs to get comfortable with new sensations, or do other women have a similar experience?

[DreamP346]

Could be she needs to get comfortable with it, it was for me. Took relaxing and exploring. For other women, the vibrator can be too much stimulation as well.

[JonDoe]

Could be she needs to get comfortable with it, it was for me. Took relaxing and exploring. For other women, the vibrator can be too much stimulation as well.

Do you remember if it took a few times to get comfortable with the new sensations or was it more gradual over a longer time period?

I tried starting with the lowest setting and only increasing gradually when I could tell she was responding to the sensations. Perhaps I should try sticking to the lower settings for a while longer.

I also asked her if she'd like to try a few times alone to explore and get comfortable with it, but she said no. She did say "There is too much going on, and felt a bit numb." in fact, she couldn't reach orgasm from oral afterwards, and she never has trouble reaching orgasm from oral.

[DreamP346]

Few times I've used a vibe with my hubby, I didn't really care for it. When hubby is around, anything else seems so boring. Its probably my mind just shutting off to it.

Only when using it by myself and focusing on just my own senses did it work. It took a few tries to figure out what worked best and then it was like WHAM! To me it was about opening my mind up to accepting the vibrator as pleasurable and then figuring out what I liked best. The learning process was gradual, but not the getting used to.