[saionji]

Hi, I'm really new to sex and having a boyfriend in general.
My bf is really into squirting. He doesn't pressure me to do it and he's really respectful. I don't know how to do it at all.
To be kinda descriptive, when we have sex he hits a spot that feels really good, yet slightly overstimulating.. I feel like this could make me finish but idk what I'm doing wrong? I also feel like I have to pee during this, but that's where the kind of overstimulation comes in- I can't do much else than feel TOO good.

Other than this issue- I am capable of orgasm from clit stimulation.

Can anyone give me some advice???

[Zoë T.]

Hi there! Squirting during sex is a wonderful sensation that does in fact feel quite different from a clitoral orgasm. It sounds like your BF is hitting the G spot, which is what leads to squirting. If you do want to squirt, I recommend taking deep breaths and trying to relax your body (and mind) as much as possible. You will feel like you're about to pee (in fact, squirt does actually contain some pee in it!) and that's totally normal - it just means that you're almost there. If at times things are feeling too stimulating or intense, communicate with your partner and ask him to slow down a bit or take a break. Squirting (for me at least) feels like a big and incredible release of tension that sends waves throughout your entire body. Take it slow, breathe, communicate with your partner and allow yourself to let go or release when you feel that "need to pee" because it means you're right on the edge of squirting! I hope this helps! Have fun!

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

Your partner needs to spend a lot of time on foreplay. its all about foreplay. I'm just going to come out and say it. there is too much emphasis put on the clitoral hood and the clit in general. I find these kinds of discussions quite exhausting because time and time again i'm just going over old ground. Why is there so much emphasis put one the clitoris ? yeah yeah I know its sensitive but I think in many ways its just too sensitive. this is my advice: spend time just teasing each other. even before you go to bed. build up your emotional relationship with your partner. bring back romance into your relationship. I never every use toys because they don't really work or Ive never needed toys to get my partner aroused because I spend hours on foreplay. just the act of kissing your partner is foreplay. just play a game where you are not allowed to touch each other except gentle slow kisses on your partners mouth. go really slow, painfully slow till your lips just meet. practice kissing slowly and gently, tell him to kiss your around the ears, the neck, your breasts, SLOW, GENTLE and careful. Its not a race to enter and ejaculate. you could even just dance together slow and in a dark room with just a few candles. after an hour then get naked and only allow him to caress your body. every part of your body, slowly, gently, and very very lightly his hand only just need to be hovering over the surface of your skin. its NOT rubbing its caressing with his hands. ideally his hands need to be soft and supple. because a women takes longer to get aroused a man must spend hours if needed on foreplay. there is no magic button, its time, patience, persistence and gentleness that leads a women into orgasm. I'm sorry but that's how it is. A women needs a lot of foreplay to reach orgasm. Most women are inhibited by default because of all the traumas that she may have suffered through her child hood. Women are worried and anxious about their bodies and men also. that's why you need a man that's patient and is willing to spend the time on foreplay. Foreplay is hugging, cuddling, kissing, playing with your hair. slow, gentle, patience, and avoid clit grinding. also the gspot is nonsense that some stupid thing they do in porn movies which doesn't work and if anything its leaves a women feeling sore and traumatized. Why is this good advice? Because this is what I do and I know it works. I rarely if every grind the clitoral hood or the clit'. Look the Gspot thing was just a book to make a buck its not some magic fart button. so please anybody reading this be told and change your behaviour and learn new things that do work.

[Wednesday L.F.]

Hi there, I’d just like to point out that relaxing and staying in the moment is essential for sexual pleasure. Focusing on specific achievements, whether it’s reaching orgasm, maintaining an erection, or squirting, can make that achievement more difficult. If you can, try not to pressure yourself.

[Monique Kova]

When I was (much) younger, it was actually a girlfriend of mine that enlightened me as to what squirting orgasms were. Up until then, I was quite inexperienced being with a partner sexually although I did loads of self-exploration. She discovered squirting accidentally while masturbating and told me all about it. I didn't have access to toys back then so the next time I gratified myself, I relied on using finger techniques to stimulate my clit and then I gradually progressed to vaginal penetration in different positions.

Eventually I had that same strange peeing sensation you talked about and after some fluids leaked out, I immediately stopped. I soon realized it didn't look or taste like pee and I resumed masturbating again. The next time I had the peeing sensation, I totally let go of my inhibitions and actually pushed down like my girlfriend had explained to me. All I can say is oh my goodness, what a rush, or should I say what a gush! I'm not sure how much I squirted but the bed was soaked and I even got some of the floor wet a few feet away.

Since then, I have mastered my technique using clitoral stimulation, penetration with fingers and/or toys, and during sex with my husband. Fortunately he is equally obsessed with squirting as much as me and I have basically taught him everything I know with no complaints from either of us.

The key is to explore your own body by yourself without having any pressure to perform by a partner. Once you lose your inhibitions and just allow your body to react without holding back and you will enjoy whatever experience you have whether you squirt of not. As to how much you will squirt, everyone is different. Some women trickle a bit while others (like me) literally explode with fluids and make quite a mess.

[Kayla Lords]

I squirt from both G-spot stimulation and clitoral stimulation. G-spot is more difficult because it's not my preferred way to get off. I'm a clit-girl from way back, lol.

The key is squirting, I've found, is hydration (if I'm dehydrated, nothing's coming out) and relaxation. That "need to pee" feeling is the feeling I get when I squirt. And it held me back for YEARS from getting off at all, let alone squirting. But if you tense up or think too much about what's going to happen (or not), you practically guarantee you won't squirt.

When you start to feel those sensations, do your best to relax into them, let go of any worries about it, and let your body respond.

If the idea of a mess bothers you, put down towels or old blankets first, so you're not also thinking about clean-up later.