[Bookworm007]

(Sorry for the descriptive words ) So I haven't had sex in 6 years till now I started seeing someone a few months ago and we have started to have sex about a month ago . I can get turned on and wet I can be really into it. But I can't feel it when he's inside (unless he's slamming hard and deep) and he's not small either average size really. I cant seem to reach the peak with him either )When I use a vibrator of similar size I can feel that. What the hell is wrong with me

[EmptyNester]

Have you tried different positions? It could be just the angle he is coming from (no pun intended). Try moving your hips to see if you can find a sweet spot. More importantly, relax and have fun. The more you think about it, the more you distract yourself

[Alison H.]

As EmptyNester suggested, different positions may help to increase the amount of sensation you're experiencing. I don't know how much you have experimented with positions with this guy (or how the positions you've used differ from the ones you normally use with your vibrator), but changing the angle, shifting your hips, or changing positions completely may improve the amount of sensation.

Additionally, although vibrators don't cause desensitization, you can get accustomed to them and reaching orgasm that way. Especially since you hadn't had sex for six years, it's a significant change from the "routine" your body is most familiar with, if that makes sense?

Obviously, the sensations from a vibrator are quite different from those during sex, but it's possible that your body has to sort of re-acclimate itself to partnered sex. And that might just take a little time.

[Gena G.]

Maybe try going really really slow and concentrating on what you are feeling? Especially to start. I feel like if I jump straight to going balls to the wall with a partner I get desensitized and can't feel that much. I think sex can be really mental and it's more about changing the way you are thinking about it than the literal sex but that might just be me personally.

[Bookworm007]

Thanks for all the replies

[shycherry]

As the girls wrote above, in order to feel at least the same level of pleasure again, you need to experiment with different positions, different entry angles, and so on. But no one has yet said that you can also use various toys. After all, that's what they were made for. If your partner does not mind, then it will bring pleasure to both.

I can also give advice from personal experience. Try not to think about anything during sex. Be in the moment. While you are in bed (or not only) with your partner, then try not to think about how many more positions you need to try, how you would like to lie down so that he likes it, and so on. Just try to have pleasure.

[Kayla Lords]

I don't always feel a lot during penetration, beyond knowing that he's thrusting in and out. The bit of sensation I feel is neither good nor bad, it simply is. I, too, use a vibrator during penetrative sex, so that I'm getting off, too. I definitely agree with trying different positions -- I feel more during doggy style than I do in missionary or a spooning position.

That being said, I tend to notice all the sensations of sex when we slow things down and when my partner focuses on touching my entire body. When he goes straight for my clit to turn me on and then penetrates me, I notice a lot fewer sensations when we have sex like that than I do when he touches the rest of my body, both the "obvious" sensitive areas like my nipples and neck but also just the rest of me -- torso, legs, arms, etc -- before penetration. Sometimes about slowing down and focusing on stroking my skin keeps me in the moment and makes every touch (including penetration) more noticeable.

I also notice I like a lot of sensations during sex, not just penetration -- that helps me stay in my body and not let my mind wander (to-do lists, what I'll do tomorrow, etc, etc). Sex can be a full body experience and for some people, that's what we need -- nipple stimulation, vibrator on my clit, spanking my butt, simply running his hands over my body. All of those things make the entire sexual experience so good that I'm not paying attention to exactly what I feel during penetration within my vagina.

[jns]

That being said, I tend to notice all the sensations of sex when we slow things down and when my partner focuses on touching my entire body. When he goes straight for my clit to turn me on and then penetrates me, I notice a lot fewer sensations when we have sex like that than I do when he touches the rest of my body, both the "obvious" sensitive areas like my nipples and neck but also just the rest of me -- torso, legs, arms, etc -- before penetration. Sometimes about slowing down and focusing on stroking my skin keeps me in the moment and makes every touch (including penetration) more noticeable.

I also notice I like a lot of sensations during sex, not just penetration -- that helps me stay in my body and not let my mind wander (to-do lists, what I'll do tomorrow, etc, etc). Sex can be a full body experience and for some people, that's what we need -- nipple stimulation, vibrator on my clit, spanking my butt, simply running his hands over my body. All of those things make the entire sexual experience so good that I'm not paying attention to exactly what I feel during penetration within my vagina.

I've noticed that paying some attention to areas that are not defined as erogenous zones can have an effect of raising arousal. Part of it is to also not be predictable. There doesn't have to be pressure, merely running hands lightly or lips over the area can be enough. On the other hand, using pressure can create a different sensation. Even another benefit is that there is a break from the main action and that keeps stimulation fatigue from happening.

[fancyfree]

Sensation to me has always been about excitement and the heat of the moment. No time to think, just enjoy the act of having sex. No matter what you are into there is always a solution. I have experimented with toys, large and small, been fisted, double penetrated, and the only that that really changed was the I percieved what was going on. Convention sex immediately after using larger toys or objects will require in so e instances different positions to angle and hit the spits you want. My best advice is dont think about, take control, utilize your resources and position yourself for the best odds of pleasure and orgasm. Its been my experience men really get lost in the moment when you take charge. So now not only are you not thinking about it but neither are they and typically last longer so you can get yours to maximum pleasure

[Little_Man_in_the_Boat]

(Sorry for the descriptive words ) So I haven't had sex in 6 years till now I started seeing someone a few months ago and we have started to have sex about a month ago . I can get turned on and wet I can be really into it. But I can't feel it when he's inside (unless he's slamming hard and deep) and he's not small either average size really. I cant seem to reach the peak with him either )When I use a vibrator of similar size I can feel that. What the hell is wrong with me

The biggest problem is insufficient foreplay. How much time do you spend on foreplay ? Slamming hard and deep will have the reverse affect of what you are trying to achieve. Plastic toys don't work because its are not a real penis.