Over the past few months my fiancé has gotten so distant. Our sex life used to b fantastic and frequent and now I have to beg for it and once a month or longer he will do it but only if we've been drinking. He has used my dildo before and I wonder if he is sexually confused. Last night after sex I laid in bed with my eyes shut and he then masturbated, I asked him why he didn't want me again and he denied it and said I was imaging things and got very defensive I am so depressed and I don't know what to do..
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Try taking control in the bedroom. If he is interested in prostrate stimulation, you should take control of the dildo and use it together. -
You need to have an open discussion with him. Talk to him in a non accusatory fashion. Don't start crying or anything. Just be clear that you would like to discuss your relationship. Tell him clearly what you want out of you sex life (be very specific). Say you aren't being sexually fulfilled. Ask him if he is satisfied with your sex lives. Say you would love to talk about doing different things. Maybe you can incorporate anal sex, strap ons, prostate massage while giving BJ, etc. Tell him you are open to trying different things, but he just needs to be open to you about it. Understand that many people do masturbate even though they have partners. Let him know that is fine, but you just don't want it to leave you unfulfilled.
Are there any other issues in your relationship besides the sex aspect.Freedom is just another word for nothing left to lose - Kris Kristofferson and Fred Foster (sung by Janis Joplin)Comment
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I don't see any true indication that he is gay, but he may want to be dominated.I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, VirginiaComment
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Think positively, he is being considerate as he saves you the hassle of cleaning up later. Maybe he is a kinky man so whenever he masturabtes in front of you, ask him if he needs help. Participate in the fun and explore how you can make it as kinky as he likes to be. If he does not need your help, then it is better for you to allow him some peace and privacy to finish his own fun. It does not mean he does not love you, it means he finds masturbation is a cleaner, faster and effective way to reach his orgasm.Comment
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Your right! Lots of married people masturbate because their partners could go for WEEKS without wanting sex. I find it to be the most bizarre things ever???Comment
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