[Depressing]

Can someone please let me know is there a way I can stop squirting. It’s messy and I hate it

[Rayn]

Hello Depressing,

Let's start by identifying the problem. You say it's messy and you hate it. It being messy is a given. Sex as whole is messy. But why do you hate it? Do you find it uncomfortable, unpleasureable, or are you just embarrassed? There's no right or wrong here, but i do think there are ways you can overcome these feelings.

1 - Preparation. If you know you're a heavy squirter. There are things you can do to prepare. Having a towel or waterproof sheets ready. Having sex in places where little to no cleanup is required (shower, bath tub, pool, outside, etc.). Being prepared can help better put your mind and body at ease.

2 - Midigation. What makes you squirt? Is it a certain act or positon? Does it happen when you orgasm (squirting and cumming don't always happen at the same time). If it's something that you can avoid doing then do so to help mitigate squirting. For example, if cowgirl makes you squirt then avoid that position. If it's the length of sex or depth of penetration, then you can figure out ways to decrease either. By mitigating your ability to squirt, you increase your control over your ability to do so.

3 - Avoidance. Similar to mitigation, avoidance is another way for you to have control. No matter what you're doing, if you feel it coming on, slow down or even stop before reaching the point of no return. Allow your body to cool down for a bit before starting again.

If you're new to these methods, practice and take your time to figure out what works best for both you and your partner. But no matter what, try to not get frustrated and definitely don't be embarrassed. I hope this helps and wish you all the best. Good luck.

[Kayla Lords]

I'm not a fan of the mess either (as a long-time squirter) so I definitely agree with the preparation options already mentioned. The times I've squirted less are when I've cut back on water leading up to sex/foreplay and when I go to the bathroom immediately before sex/foreplay. It's not always a guarantee but it has caused a reduction in my squirting at times.

That being said, besides the mess (and I use towels and a waterproof mattress pad to save myself some clean-up), I enjoy squirting so I also agree with the idea of sitting with your feelings because if it's coming from a place of shame, that's no good for future sexual pleasure. That being said, once you've sat with your feelings and maybe figured out where those feelings come from, it's completely okay to not like squirting and wanting to minimize it as much as you can. Hopefully, though, that dislike doesn't hamper your ability to enjoy other parts of sex and pleasure.

[MrMr]

It is messy at times and can be annoying to clean up but it's your bodies natural reaction. I still absolutely love a partner that squirts because the visual stimulation is amazing. My advice is try having sex at the end of the bed when on your back so that when you squirt it's shooting away from places that are difficult to clean up. I hope you can learn to love your body and with a partner that fully embraces you

[Rigdedstill]

My lovely lady never squirted ! She has climaxed when I held her tight and rubbed the small of her back and she came a couple of times when I started fuming when she was blowing me ! And I’ve eaten her to multiple orgasams numerous times! We found a art deco chase lounge that started at the floor and went to lower theigh height before again going back down , then curving back up…the low spot being where you’re **** is meant to be and I pushed her to laying backwards with her head at the second low spot and promptly started oral- she obviously was at a disadvantage as I proceed to eat her to seven orgasams before she pushed my face away! She had the tastiest cum ! Sadly much has changed since she reached menopause !

[Rigdedstill]

That wasn’t fuming - it was cuming while she blew me