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  • MrMr
    Banned
    • Apr 2019
    • 270

    Weight loss and sex drive

    Over the past 2 years I've lost a decent amount of weight and got the body I had when I was in the services.

    My libido is through the roof these days and I am feel pretty good about myself.

    A fwb has been taking pictures of me and suggested I post them on some forums and I kinda love the idea.

    Is it vulgar to feel this confident? I have always been self assured but never this way physically.

    Any advice for taking pictures?



  • Wednesday L.F.
    Veteran Member
    • Oct 2020
    • 362

    Hey! I'm totally in favor of budoir photos and wish more people would experiment with it.

    If you're setting a scene, this as simply or complicated as you want to make it. Preparing a space for boudoir pics can be as easy as tidying up and maybe getting unsexy things like kid’s toys or cleaning supplies out of frame. Or you could go all out by covering everything with silk fabric, setting up fancy lighting or candles (Watch out for fire hazards here!).

    Talk openly with your photog about what you want to showcase, anything you’re insecure about, what tone you want the finished product to have.

    Protip: If you’re shy about showing your body, a sexy bed shoot with a luxurious sheet sets is a great option. This type of staging can allow you to cover yourself as you like, and surround yourself in a flattering background color.

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    • Kayla Lords
      Writer & Contributor
      • Aug 2021
      • 106

      Hi there and congrats on your progress! I don't think it's vulgar to be confident in yourself, at all. And I'm definitely in favor of taking pics to showcase your confidence in your body.

      If you're taking selfies, play with angles, get a tripod, and focus on lighting as much as anything. Facing a window on a sunny day will give you one effect, and using shadows and light will give you another. Ring lights are so common these days, and a lot of them include extra lighting effects so you can even play with color in your lighting to get different effects and set different moods.

      The thing to remember about sharing the pics you take - whether you DIY it or hire someone - is to share them with people who want to see them. So on your own social media timelines is okay, but make sure to get consent before you send them to anyone.

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      • MrMr
        Banned
        • Apr 2019
        • 270

        Thanks for the advice. I've taken a few already but unsure of how good they actually are. I definitely won't be sharing any unsolicited pictures

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        • MrMr
          Banned
          • Apr 2019
          • 270

          Is it sexier to take pictures without a full erection?

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          • jns
            Assistant Admin
            • Mar 2010
            • 8398

            Originally posted by MrMr
            Is it sexier to take pictures without a full erection?
            Are you trying to showcase your body or showcase your erection? Compare to ancient Greek statues. Did many of them have erections?
            I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
            ...
            Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?

            From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, Virginia

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            • Wednesday L.F.
              Veteran Member
              • Oct 2020
              • 362

              Originally posted by jns

              Are you trying to showcase your body or showcase your erection? Compare to ancient Greek statues. Did many of them have erections?
              This is an important question. An erection will definitely draw the eye, so if you want to accentuate something else, maybe stop at the 'quarter chub.'

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              • atskitty2
                Assistant Admin
                • Aug 2013
                • 4467

                Yeah, I'm really curious who your intended audience is for the photos, and as Kayla Lords mentioned, make sure you have consent before sending these unsolicited. Not meaning any insult there. I have had numerous **** pics sent my way over the years, unrequested, and it was not pleasant.

                Otherwise, I think it is a great confidence booster, and motivator, and it can be a lot of fun! I guess whether you do a full erection photo or not depends on the photo. Some with, some without. And congrats on the results of your hard work!

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                • Eeshan
                  Member
                  • Mar 2023
                  • 28

                  Weight loss and sex drive can be interconnected, and changes in weight can potentially impact libido (sex drive) in various ways. Here are a few key points to consider:
                  1. Hormonal Changes: Excess body weight, particularly excess fat, can disrupt hormone levels in the body. This disruption may affect the balance of sex hormones, such as testosterone and estrogen, which can influence sexual desire. Losing weight can help restore hormonal balance and potentially improve sex drive.
                  2. Increased Confidence: Shedding extra pounds and achieving a healthier body weight can boost self-confidence and body image. Feeling more positive about one's appearance can lead to increased sexual confidence and desire.
                  3. Improved Physical Fitness: Engaging in regular physical activity as part of a weight loss journey can enhance overall cardiovascular health and stamina. Improved fitness levels can positively affect sexual performance and libido.
                  4. Psychological Factors: Weight loss can have positive effects on mental well-being. Reduced stress, improved self-esteem, and increased body positivity can contribute to an improved sex drive. Additionally, weight loss can alleviate some conditions like depression or anxiety that may negatively impact libido.

                  However, it's essential to note that individual experiences may vary. Not everyone will necessarily see a direct correlation between weight loss and changes in sex drive. Other factors, such as relationship dynamics, personal health history, medications, and lifestyle choices, can also influence libido.

                  If you have concerns about your sex drive or weight loss journey, it's advisable to consult with a healthcare professional who can provide personalized guidance based on your specific circumstances.

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                  • MrMr
                    Banned
                    • Apr 2019
                    • 270

                    Originally posted by atskitty2
                    Yeah, I'm really curious who your intended audience is for the photos, and as Kayla Lords mentioned, make sure you have consent before sending these unsolicited. Not meaning any insult there. I have had numerous **** pics sent my way over the years, unrequested, and it was not pleasant.

                    Otherwise, I think it is a great confidence booster, and motivator, and it can be a lot of fun! I guess whether you do a full erection photo or not depends on the photo. Some with, some without. And congrats on the results of your hard work!
                    Nothing would ever be unsolicited. My current fwb has taken pictures and asked her friends if they wanted to see them. I told my ex I had taken some and she asked to see them because she wanted to see my weight loss. I much prefer sending pictures without an erection but have sent some on request. It's all good fun and a major confident boost

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