Sex Education For Seniors

[Bigtwin96]

I'm a 69 YO male. Earlier this year (Valentines Day) my wife of 40 years passed. At the beginning of this month I all but figured out this solo life wasn't for me. I'm very active. I also have a strong sex drive (all the plumbing works) as did my former wife.
Back in the middle of April I had lunch with three of her girlfriends. They wanted to see how I was holding up. Later the conversation got more intimate. Stuff like getting a girlfriend, sex and the such. I started to get a little uncomfortable with the conversation but stuck it out. One of the ladies suggested that I should "re-educate" myself on intimate sexuality as there is more information available on how to please a lady in the bedroom. Another lady said "Case in Point, name the parts of a vulva." I was stumped. Most guys would say the clit, lips and anus. That's it. It's much more than that.
I hit the Google and found out there are thousands of tasteful, non porno articles on pleasing a woman. I learned the anatomy first and memorized all the parts. Then I went into turn on points, foreplay techniques and intercourse techniques. There is one site out there that offers very tasteful, graphic non pornographic course/tutorial on the whole shibang. It was eye opening.
If you are wondering what my point is it's that men and women of my age have a more traditional idea about sex. Yes we do oral sex and intercourse. But I found that I probably cheated her all those years. I have found that 90% of men and more than 60% of women couldn't name the parts of the vulva. That's horrible.
I've had a girlfriend for two weeks now (she's 13 years younger).Armed with my new information I tried some of what I learned. The feedback was "Nobody took the time to treat me and make me feel so good". Later, sitting on the couch, I explained what I had found out in my research. She just smiled.
In closing I must say that guys need to educate themselves, especially guys my age who are still active. We all know that phycologicaly women are very complicated. Physically they are really complicated.

[jns]

I'm a 69 YO male. Earlier this year (Valentines Day) my wife of 40 years passed. At the beginning of this month I all but figured out this solo life wasn't for me. I'm very active. I also have a strong sex drive (all the plumbing works) as did my former wife.
Back in the middle of April I had lunch with three of her girlfriends. They wanted to see how I was holding up. Later the conversation got more intimate. Stuff like getting a girlfriend, sex and the such. I started to get a little uncomfortable with the conversation but stuck it out. One of the ladies suggested that I should "re-educate" myself on intimate sexuality as there is more information available on how to please a lady in the bedroom. Another lady said "Case in Point, name the parts of a vulva." I was stumped. Most guys would say the clit, lips and anus. That's it. It's much more than that.
I hit the Google and found out there are thousands of tasteful, non porno articles on pleasing a woman. I learned the anatomy first and memorized all the parts. Then I went into turn on points, foreplay techniques and intercourse techniques. There is one site out there that offers very tasteful, graphic non pornographic course/tutorial on the whole shibang. It was eye opening.
If you are wondering what my point is it's that men and women of my age have a more traditional idea about sex. Yes we do oral sex and intercourse. But I found that I probably cheated her all those years. I have found that 90% of men and more than 60% of women couldn't name the parts of the vulva. That's horrible.
I've had a girlfriend for two weeks now (she's 13 years younger).Armed with my new information I tried some of what I learned. The feedback was "Nobody took the time to treat me and make me feel so good". Later, sitting on the couch, I explained what I had found out in my research. She just smiled.
In closing I must say that guys need to educate themselves, especially guys my age who are still active. We all know that phycologicaly women are very complicated. Physically they are really complicated.

I'm glad the lady friends of your wife put you on the path to education. Some of these things may have been discussed in sex education classes. I am five years younger than you are and I had the classes but I think they started being taught only a few years before I had them. After them, many people quit learning and even forget them. Then they were too embarrassed to discuss them with anyone. I hope your wife at least gave you some feedback on what she liked. She may have not known what is possible herself. You will probably find that you have to change things up from time to time with your new girlfriend. Even change who is controlling the action from time to time.

[Kayla Lords]

I'm so glad that your newfound education has helped you! While I hope that what we publish here at WHI and the forums can be helpful when you have questions, I'd also recommend checking out Joan Price -- she specifically provides information, education, and advice about sex for people in their 60s and older. She may touch on topics that are age-specific.

[Bigtwin96]

My current girlfriend has told me that she has never experienced an hour or more of foreplay. She’s getting into it. Last time we met we had two love making sessions in one day. She told me last night when she visits this time we are going for three. I guess I will find my limits.
By the way, we live 80 miles apart. She loves the country living i have. Quiet and secluded. We’ve already been out on the property walking and riding the Mule naked in the day and night. She loves it and was the one who suggested it. I think she is also exploring her secret sexual wants. We are having a lot of fun. I wish all seniors could experience this with the right person.

[Laura Smith]

Any tips to last longer in bed?

[Bigtwin96]

Slow exploration......