[Layne13]

Hi all, I am curious as to whether this is an issue that affects more women than people realise as it is not something widely talked about? I would be interested in hearing if there are others out there who feel they may be sexually repressed due to any number of issues - this could be a childhood trauma, religious reasons, cultural reasons etc

[Wednesday L.F.]

Oh my goodness, yes.
Abuse and trauma, religious extremism, lack of sexual knowledge, insecurity, body image issues, and a whole lot of other factors can keep women (and men too) reticent to have or enjoy sex.

The good news is that it’s possible to overcome it. It might even be easier than you think.
And you’re right—this is something we should all talk about more.

[Layne13]

I am actually writing a book on this and currently in the research stage. Would love to hear from others regarding their stories and experience if anyone is interested - completely confidential of course.

[MeLuvCookies]

This will sound selfish, and it is, but as a guy I am actually selfishly angered by the sexual repression of women.

As a guy who unfortunately for me developed an intense kink of fetish for satisfying women and giving them orgasms (it was a blessing until my current wife became so inhibited and checked out sexually she makes it a battle against the odds to make her cum) I want women who are comfortable with their own bodies and with themselves and who allow themselves to enjoy sex and want to enjoy sex. I want that primal animal that is inside women to come out. **** when that primal nature comes out to play there is nothing that compares to it. I have often said I do not in any way shape or form believe in God but **** if the female orgasm is not the best evidence of God's existence cause how could something so amazingly beautiful and artistic and original to each woman just evolve by accident.

But all the baggage that gets put on women. ****. All the body image issues and the **** shaming and the teaching that sex is something men want and women should protect and keep from men and use as like a bargaining tool or something and the teaching that it is somehow nasty for women to have kinks and fantasies and enjoy sex, and yeah the trauma done to women and the repression. Like **** all that stuff just gets in the way and weighs on them and as a guy who wants to satisfy them I can say selfishly it sucks man. I want to make sex so good for them but I have to fight the demons of things done to them by every other man in society since they were born and get punished for the fat shaming and **** shaming I have never ever done. And that sucks.

And from a selfish male perspective I don't get repressing and putting that baggage on women. Like men are trying to hard to get women to have sex with them but as a society do everything possible to make sex something women are taught not to enjoy and do everything to make them hate their bodies. Its like **** guys you are shooting yourselves in the foot and shooting all of the rest of us in the foot. Maybe don't repress them and they'll want and enjoy it more and everybody wins. I don't get it.

And don't even get me started on the money that is made giving women complexes and repressing them. You constantly message women in advertising making them feel fat so you can make a profit selling them weight loss miracle cures and fad diets and clothes to make them feel better about their bodies that are already smoking hot. The Lume thing is the one that ****es me off the most. So many products are marketed to women giving them the idea that the smell bad, specifically that their vaginas smell bad. Like stop and watch how many different advertisements are pushing this idea that the natural smell of a woman is bad and you gotta spend money to cover it up with lavenders and mangoes. Dude that is cruelty to give women complexes and try to convince them they smell bad just to sell them stuff they don't need. And stupid too cause I will take original flavor vagina over mango or lavender flavor any day of the week and twice on Sunday.

[Alison H.]

I think the sexual repression of women is something that's been going on for literal centuries, so it's more common than most probably realize. For a lot of reasons, too: religious (you're gonna go to into the pits if you ring the devil's doorbell or have sex before marriage or have impure thoughts, etc); societal (you dress too ****ty, or show your ankles in public); insecurities (common, especially with the media, advertising, and everything else that makes women compare themselves to some "ideal" they can't reach); abuse/shaming (either in youth or at any point, really...)

Women can't really "win"... if you like sex, you're **** or ho; if you don't like sex, you're frigid. If you dress conservatively, you're a prude; if you dress hot, you're loose and asking for it.

I'm surprised repression isn't built into our DNA. (Or maybe it is... who knows. I wouldn't be surprised, that's for sure.)