[Shawnak2870]

Hello, I’m 48 divorced and live alone. I feel I have developed an issue with masturbating. I have been doing it a lot and watching porn. Also, I have not had sex in quite sometime. I spend much of my free time doing it. I guess my question is how much is too much?

[EmptyNester]

Too much is when it is interfering with living life as normal. Think about some of the things you are no longer doing with your free time and reprioritize.

[Wednesday L.F.]

Hey there!
I can understand how, if you’re suddenly masturbating more than usual, it may seem like too much. There are numerous health benefits to masturbating, including improved mood and better sleep. That said, your porn use or masturbation could be indicative of a behavioral disorder if:

—You spend money on porn instead of paying bills.
—You miss work or other obligations to stay home and wank.
—You feel debilitating guilt after each incident.
—This occurs at the expense of other relationships.

most adults have been taught at some point that they should feel guilty about sexual feelings and acts not directly related to baby making. The reality is that plenty of people go through times when they self-gratify more than usual. So long as it doesn’t keep you from the rest of life, it’s probably not dangerous or harmful.

[Shawnak2870]

That’s the thing. I think it has gotten to the point of being an issue.

[Wednesday L.F.]

I’m sorry to hear that.

a good next step is to research behavioral therapists who are trained in this kind of disorder. They can help you determine your goals to curb your porn use and take steps toward achieving them. There are also apps for this, but unless you’re able to tolerate the shaming language they use, I don’t recommend these.

[MrMr]

Doing anything too often that impacts is too much. I've had a fwb where all we did was masturbate. Doesn't mean it was a problem.

Intimate casual hook ups don't always need to mean sex. Doing oral could maybe help you