[AussieYank]

*shrugs*

You just need a man with more vision. One who loves living as much as you do. Also there is no reason you can't get out and do some of what you love on your own and let him do some of whatever on his own. How about joining groups devoted to some of the activities you really enjoy? There is nothing wrong with being able to unwind together and relax. The right man won't find you too wet, he'll be thinking how awesome it is that you get so turned on.

well... not feeling very good about myself.
Just got criticized for living my life the way I do by my house mate. Ok he's young... but I'm over it.

I know "HE'S" out there for me somewhere.... blah blah blah
but I think I just need to switch things up
move on and forget "normal"
forget what it's all "supposed" to be like
cause I tell ya what.... how are you supposed to have an average/normal life when so many extraordinary things have happened already that most people don't get to deal with up until the very last?

Yes - it all comes down to self confidence
and in the front of my head I know it....
in the back of my head - how do you heal a scar
with out attempting to cut it out and replace it with yet another scar
put a bandaid on it and you end up with those men of small vision
live as large and as passionate about just being here in this life
looks to me like a life mostly alone

how do you take an ocean
and bottle it in a smaller container?
and why does everyone around you expect you to downsize youself so you fit in next to their small containers?

sexuality.... love it.
but it is connected to so much more in life than just a partner and sharig yourself with that one and only.

[WildChild]

I don't want to hijack this thread but you don't have enough posts yet to do a visitor message or PM. There are several of us here who have or are dealing with the problem of men who just can't keep up us, who lack vision or ability to really appreciate who and what we are. We do a fair amount of chatting about that. Why not visit the lounge and read through some of the bragging or feeling good about yourself threads?

[AussieYank]

cool

I don't want to hijack this thread but you don't have enough posts yet to do a visitor message or PM. There are several of us here who have or are dealing with the problem of men who just can't keep up us, who lack vision or ability to really appreciate who and what we are. We do a fair amount of chatting about that. Why not visit the lounge and read through some of the bragging or feeling good about yourself threads?

cool... will do - am just so please to find a place where folks can actually talk about all this stuff.

Back to the guts of the subject.... position wise what positions have partners found work best for both of you?

[Guest]

I sometime get VERY wet during sex with my DH and that usually means he isnt going to cum when i am to wet we normally turn to anal sex where i know he will cum

[kira]

Getting too wet does cause problems. There have been plenty of times the guy I was with couldn't finish and sometimes by that point I can't feel much of anything no matter what he does cause everything is far too soft and squishy inside me. There's no friction at all. There's just... goo.... Go hump a bucket of water and let me know if you get anywhere There has to be some friction and it's harder for him to apply pressure I can feel if everything is soft and sliding around. Most of the time it's only an issue with my current relationship when we try to have sex multiple times in the same night. Usually neither one of us can find a way to finish.

The only thing I can think of to try are those creams or lotions sold to make the vagina feel tighter. Overall they seem to get good reviews. At minimum they aren't harmful. You can find them lots of places usually with some name relating to something asian or virgins.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I don't know...

I would say I am blessed and lucky too but I think it all balls down to the man, how good he is at foreplay and how long he can do it for, in all facets, why? Because your muscles expand swell and by the time he puts it in, doesn't matter how wet you are, it will all be felt.

My "opinion"...

CW

[kira]

In my experience it doesn't work that way. If things are really swollen with fluid and everything is really wet you don't feel it. Like I tried to compare before it's like pushing on water. There is no real friction. For the guy or the girl. He'd have to be rock hard and push just right for me to feel it very well. Everything just gives and squishes out of the way instead so I feel nothing. I've had times when after extended foreplay and multiple rounds of sex I get to the point I can't even tell if the guy is still doing anything and none of my partners have been small. My first was actually quite large to the point he hurt me a few times and my current guy is well within average. I'm fairly small and definitely not loose. He even commented on how much looser his last gf was but when things get really really wet down there neither one of us can feel anything. Sex usually just has to be put on hold without anyone being satisfied that last time.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Difference probably is your talking about multiple rounds of sex, where as I am talking about being "aroused" before penetration, to the point where your muscles inside expand through arousal...

Positions may be your key...

Are you saying that not even "once", through those multiple rounds you are satisfied? Or only on the last occasion?

It is a fact that we can control our muscles there and I have found that the more aware we are mentally of sensuality, the more it is not sex, rather passionate and sensual/horny/sexual all at once, instead .... and so, things turn around to just having "wet sex"...

[kira]

If foreplay is long or I get really aroused then we may not even finish the first time before sensations start to lessen. I have some very strong muscles and good control of them. The one time I pulled out every trick I knew and strained some muscles I didn't know could be strained trying to tighten down on him but things were just too slippery to get a good feel. Most of the time though it's the 2nd time we have sex and with my current partner there's no point attempting a 3rd cause we're darn lucky if there's still enough sensation left to finish the 2nd time. We've tried switching to various positions, muscle contractions, taking a break to continue foreplay which only succeeds in driving us insane and making things even wetter and less effective... nothing works. It's been a problem with all my partners but it's much more frustrating this time. I care much more about him to the point I'm getting married for the first time in a few weeks and aside from a few times we haven't really accomplished sex multiple times in a day. We both have high sex drives so we are both going a bit crazy wanting to spend all day in bed having sex but all attempts after the first don't get far.

Seriously things can be too wet....

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Aweeee... sugar.. that would suck but CONGRATULATIONS on getting married that's awesome, !!!!!!!!!!

Your obviously very sexually attracted to each other... But, I don't have an answer for this for you but I do hope someone can relate and state something that worked for them....

Go look gorgeous on your special day as you will ...

What date?

You know were kind of family here and will want to wish you many happy returns.

CW